Hi girls a phew days ago I received a phone call saying my 5 year old son had put his hand up my daughters friends skirt then ran away laughing. I feel like iv failed as a parent. Luckily I'm friends with the girls mum and she has been a great support. My son cried when he got told off by the principal. And iv had a good talk to him I dont think he will do it again. Has anyone else been through the same thing any advice would be great
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You haven't failed, he's a kid and he's going to do dumb shit. It's what they do.
How you handle the dumb shit is what makes you as a parent, not that they do it to start with.
He's 5 not 25. He's learning right from wrong and he just learnt what's wrong. You've not failed!
My son pulled his pants down in front of his female classmate when he was about 6, we dealt with it and he's never done anything like that since.
He's now a very respectful, responsible teenager who understands consent. He doesn't actually even remember doing that when he was 6 and he was quite mortified when I bought it up recently.
You have far from failed, failure would be brushing it off or being all "boys will be boys". You've taught your son the right lesson here, so chin up and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.
I'm not sure why you think you've failed as a parent? If your self loathing is going to be this extreme every time your kid does something dumb, you're going to be a ball of mess in a corner! Pull yourself together, tell your kid thats inappropriate and not to do it again and move on.
He’s five, it’s nothing in the scheme of things.
I promise you that.
I always ask myself, is this something I’ll be worrying about in 5 years time, if the answer is no, I try to move on from it.
You aren’t a failure and neither is your son, he’s just learning what’s right and wrong.
He doesn’t understand, he thinks it was funny and just playing. You haven’t failed. He is 5. Just get on with it now. You have taught him it’s not right and he will
Learn from it. Don’t make a big deal out of it now and don’t take it on and bone yourself. He is a kid. You know when something like this is serious or if he was just playing. If it’s just a once off, let it go. You haven’t failed: the amount of things kids do at school that are older than this and should know better; you’d be surprised. Your son is 5.. let it go now. Just talk to him as you go about different things and his body and other people etc but let this go. It’s all apart of leaning and I’m sure he knows now. He wouldn’t have meant it in any other way but thinking he was funny.
Bone 🤦🏼♀️ Sorry! Blame yourself I meant
Oh wow, was not expecting to almost pee my pants laughing while reading that 😂😂😂
🤣🤣 Good old iPhones!
I’m a teacher and this is not a rare thing, honestly these things are happening daily. As long as it’s not your son doing it daily, you’re gold. He’s five, he’s going to make mistakes. This is one that really can’t happen and that’s probably why the principal gave him a bit of a scare, and if that reminds him to keep hands to self then you are sweet. Please don’t dwell on it or on him, tell him he’s wonderful and you adore him a lot and if you have to bring that up, that we all make mistakes and you really love how he handled his, learnt his lesson, apologised and would never do it again.
My son pulled his pants down and flashed his entire class because we sore it on YouTube ... He was in year 3.