Why do some men act like they do everything in front of other people? I don’t mean all men, just a few I know and my husband included.
Im so pissed off tonight, I overheard him talking to our friends, like he does everything and acting like I do nothing. He didn’t say it outright but here I am doing so much with my kids and looking after our home, taking the kids to activities , dealing with school, and appointments. How dare he!
I am yet to have it out with him. I am not someone who puts up with any crap and I find this so disrespectful to me. Us mums work hard, more than they’d realise.some days are so mentally exhausting and then I hear crap like this out of his mouth.
My husband is and has always been very respectful and looks after us very well but when things like this come out every now and then, in front of others, I could leave. It’s the biggest turn off. Not sure what he would be trying to achieve by doing this but I take it as a put down or degrading me. It’s not a regular thing, maybe it’s an after a few drinks thing. Jerk!
Anyone else’s husbands do this..?
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My ex was like that. Funniest thing is when he actually had to do things by himself because I was in hospital he had to get his sister to stay and help lol.
Lol typical
No, never have come across this.
The guys around here exaggerate how little they do.
I wonder if this is not an intentional dig at you and more about him trying to portray himself a certain way so his mates think more highly of him but he's ended up shitting on you in the process.
A lot of people need to tear others down to build themselves up. It's very unhealthy.
It's also possible he genuinely believes that he does it all.
Either way, you have every right to feel disrespected, unseen and under appreciated by his comments so definitely tell him how he's making you feel!
Thanks he is always very respectful of me and anyone he knows, so I was quite surprised and wasn’t sure how to take it.
He never tears me down in anyway but I will be bringing it up with him today.
I was so cut when I bought a brand new car and my hubby was telling everyone it was HIS car. I was the only one who worked . He has a job these days but I worked so bloody hard for that car, and yet he'd tell anyone who wod listen that it was his . Not OURS, even.
Years later he admitted he said it because he was embarrassed that he was unemployed for a long time. It was more about his own weaknesses and nothing at all to diminish the fact that I bought the car myself . He was ashamed that he wasn't providing and he needed to feel the respect from others that he was validating.
Yes yes yes!!! You are sooooo not on your own. Have a look at the book 'When my husband does the dishes'. My husband actually bought this for me. He knows he is domestically challenged. He grew up with a Mum who did everything for him. He can't multitask and gets flustered in the kitchen if he has to make dinner.
I do everything in the house, washing, cooking, cleaning, organising kids, driving them to school, making lunches... and more.
He does work hard and he does outside stuff because that's what men do apparently 🤣 . The kids and I have given him the nickname 'El Swoopo' as he swoops on at the last minute, stirs the pot on the stove, hands a meal over, puts honey on Carrots (Daddy you make the BEST honey Carrots!!). It started when I made my son a dinasour birthday cake when he was 2 over ten years ago. My hubby came in and drew teeth on it and told everyone 'we' made it!! Like your husband, mine is respectful.... but seriously doesn't get it!
Whenever I have had surgery or been sick, he has always had help from my Mum, my sister, a friend. I had Covid and I had to rely on his nursing skills.... he kept forgetting to feed me. My son had Covid too so I made up some snack packs for both of us so we didn't starve. Sometimes the kids didn't have lunch until 3.00pm in the afternoon. Mind you, they are old enough to get their own food but lazy.
I get it totally and feel your pain. Hugs 💕
100 percent they think they do everything OR they like to big note themselves like they are some sort of hero's! I'm so exhausted lately and thoughts of running away enter my mind. So sick of it. The lack of appreciation and feeling like I cannot ever take a break. It's the monotonous putting myself last every single freakin day. I try so hard to get them to understand but I feel invisible 😕 It's harder when the ex pretends he's actually a parent. I don't have the answer. I'm just angry and bitter atm
It’s their ego full stop. My husband thinks he is some sort of hero. I genuinely blame his parents who blew smoke up his ass his entire life. To the point where they were saying how wonderful he was when I was giving birth. Fuck me. Sometimes they need to be taken down a few notches haha!!