Hi everyone, I have spent the last 7yrs single but have had sexual partners within that time but since I can remember I've not had any confidence getting on top & have avoided it where possible... I want to be able to overcome my insecurities so hoping for some advice please? I do have a high sex drive but when I'm on top of a guy I feel anything BUT sexy hence my issue! I've had 4 children & am almost 40, not overly overweight but somewhat mainly my stomach area & chin which plays a huge part in my lack of confidence unfortunately 😕 thankyou 💖
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Do it in the dark lol. That is the only way I do it.
Try reverse cowgirl? I guarantee he will love the view!
Honestly guys don't care about a fat roll here or there, but if it does worry you here are a few tips,
-Wear a sexy/pretty slip or baby doll lingerie, it will cover your tummy but you can still get the girls out
-Take the focus somewhere else, ie your boobs or do some intense eye contact, I'm sure he will love to see your sex face
-Blindfold him
-lights down low or off
-when on top lean forward, either face to face for kissing or ask him to orally stimulate your nipples
Try not to overthink it too much and relax and enjoy it
Honestly I just showed my partner this (I also had insecurities about my droopy bits) & he laughed & said "100% the only thing the man is thinking is OMG I'M GETTING SEX!!!! SEEEEEXXXXXX!!!!!"
I too have been single for a few years etc and call me crazy, but I've never been more confident now I'm older and have realised I don't care what I look like, I only care that I'm enjoying myself too! Honestly it's real life, not a porno and if the guy has any issues then it's simply thank you, next. I've only been with two people while single and the first guy I was so nervous and felt this way, then after 2 years of nothing I thought nope, if I can't feel comfortable and enjoy myself then I'm clearly not meant to be sleeping with this person so I've gone in overly confident and it's honestly been exhilarating. He has noticed a change and can't tell me enough how sexy I am so it's true what they say about confidence being sexy. I promise he isn't counting chins or tummy rolls, and if he is he isn't the first right guy for you babe xx