Hi everyone, I'm not really sure where to begin or what question I'm asking, perhaps just some advice or if anyone else has been in this situation?
Unfortunately for me I've been in love with the same man for 6yrs who doesn't feel the same way (at least I don't think he does) & it's so frustrating as we get along so well, the sex is always great & our family's are close but he doesn'twant a relationship with me..
Anyway he recently came back into my life & things were going great, he was actually making an effort to come see me most days to just hang out or do things with my kids like go fishing or swimming etc & we talked everyday.
I think my question is why is it any time I've mentioned how I feel he runs in the opposite direction?
Friend Zoned
Friend Zoned
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Because he likes to play happy families for a little while.
Stop letting him around your kids. And stop letting him play these games with you. It’s not fair to your kids or you.
You're a convenient booty call. I don't mean that to hurt your feelings, it's just the reality.
You need to stop allowing him to use you!
He doesn't want a serious relationship, that's fine but he doesn't get to reap the benefits of a relationship without any of the commitment.
He's strung you along for 6 years, cut him loose and make room for someone in your life who respects you.
He likes the sugar and donut. He just doesn't want the box or the shop.
Just stay friends and move on.
You’re the go to between his real relationships, a placeholder.
You deserve so much better, toss him x
He’s using you for sex I’m sorry to say xx
You deserve someone so much better.
Tell him no more and stick to it.
You have to not pick the good bits and overthink and make excuses. Trust this - if he wanted it, he would.
He’s making it clear he doesn’t want it, what he’s doing is having his cake and eating it for as long as he can get away with avoiding saying it out loud.
You're not friend zoned... You're convenient. Stop the pattern and find someone who respects you
He cares about you, but he doesn't love you. IV been there. Stop hurting yourself love. Cut him off
It's incredibly painful. I considered mine my best friend at the time and had strong feelings. I had to stop being available for him to walk in and out of my life. It took so much strength to say no to him. I swore he was the only one I would feel this way about. Two years after this I met the man I was meant to be with. If you do not cut him loose, you could lose the opportunity to be with someone who feels the same way you do. Be strong x
Why be committed and put a title on it when he’s got sex on tap and freedom? You’re giving him every mans dream. He knows it’s there and you’re there when he wants. Maybe try a little hard to get, men want what they can’t have. Maybe it’ll make him see and appreciate when it’s not on tap?
I was in a relationship like this once, I really liked the guy, but he was somewhat emotionally stunted. He just couldn't commit, so I moved on. Interestingly enough he came back and said he was hurt I moved on and he was suprised by his own feelings. I told him it was too late and said let's just be friends, so we did, we stayed friends. And you know what? I watched him do the same thing over and over again, he would meet the most amazing girls and I could tell they wanted a commitment from him and he would just hmmm and haa and they would leave. I'm not sure why some people are wired this way, my hypothesis is that they see the world through porn, social media or movie tinted glasses, their expectations are beyond anyone's reach.