Private Arrangement in child support
I just started a job last year that pays very high (6 figures). My child does not live with me and his dad and I have a very good co parenting relationship where we have a private arrangement and don't want the child support agency involved. However, child support have found out my tax return and now saying I owe my ex $200 a week. My ex does not want it but just to continue our private agreement where I pay him weekly. How do I get child support out of our business? We already agreed to our own arrangement.
Private Arrangement child support
Tuesday, 3 May 2022 - 22:43
14 Replies
Why wouldn't you want to pay a measly $200 a week? It's not much when you don't have majority of care.
You could just say you're paying that and then don't, but that causes massive issues for your ex if he receives FTB or ccr as they will base everything as though he is receiving $200 a week. That means your sons main caregiver is not getting what they're entitled to not only from you but from Centrelink as well which will affect your son. It's all good and well to say he doesn't want it but if you're not willing to pay $200 a week in Cs then that means you're not wanting to support your son financially and he will miss out. It's not about the parents and what they are too proud to accept or too stingy to pay, it's about the child. CSA don't care that he's happy to not receive, that's not what CS is about, it's not a good deed it's a responsibility.
If your ex is receiving Centrelink payments that would be why CSA is involved. They don’t get involved if Centrelink isn’t involved. Centrelink will want you to pay as much as the estimate so they can lower there payments.
If he’s not receiving Centrelink payments your ex just needs to notify them, that he doesn’t want the money.
But $200 isn’t much.
My ex pays that much, we both work.
If that’s the amount, pay it.
Your exes Centrelink will be adjusted for it.
Any mum who comes on here, we always advise that they go through CS, no private agreements, so debts can be accumulated and payments are enforced.
We also tell them, do not feel guilty, that money is for your child and the other parents needs to financially contribute.
How much are you paying already? Are you paying less than 200 a week? By this post, it seems like you're paying less otherwise you wouldn't be writing in about $200 a week of your 'six figure income'. One thing I absolutely despise is parents who want to get out of paying their full rate of child support .
A 6 figure income is at least $100k a year.
$200 a week in CS for a year is roughly $10k.
That's only 1 tenth of your entire income at the most. If you're currently paying say $100 a week, that's only one 20th of your income!
Are you really unable to live off a minimum of $90k a year so your child is getting an appropriate amount of child support?
I sustain a family of 5 with significantly less than that...
Anyway, to answer your question. You get the CSA out of your business by paying what you should.
I agree with you but technically it isn’t 10 percent as she pays tax on that 100k remember.
Tax is a given. Everyone pays tax, not everyone pays Cs. If you have a job and you don't know about tax, then you're an idiot
Commenter here.
It is still one 10th of her total income before tax, and that's only assuming she earns 100k on the dot. I'm sure she receives a decent tax return too.
Idiot or not, my point is, she isn’t living off 90k.
I do agree with your sentiment though, as a sm receiving cs, this woman needs to pay up.
A friend of mine had this happen. So when the money automatically came through if she didn’t need it she just sent it straight back to his bank account
With out knowing the agreement it's hard to say if you should be paying this or not, are you covering private school fees, all medical costs? feels like there is more to the story. However if you are straight up not covering the minimum of the CS assessment then you are not holding up your end of the deal. You ex is raising a child that you had together, and now you have the freedom of chasing career and cash. Your Son should be appropriately funded during that process. CS get involved when something isn't right. I would also advise if you have an agreement to protect yourself get it in a legally binding document, so should anyone change their minds you have proof as to why you didn't pay $200/w like expected
If your ex is in receipt of any parenting payments or FTB from Centrelink, CS are required to do an assessment. Do you pay your ex directly or does child support collect? If paying direct, you can pay your ex any amount you both agree on. If child support collects, you and your ex need to lodge a private agreement through them.
The only way to have CS "out of your business" is for neither one of you to be claiming Centrelink.
Pretty easy really, raise your kid between the 2 of you without government payments and they don't give a rats ass how you do it.