I understand that men like to look at women. That isn’t the issue. It doesn’t sit right with me when he is looking at posts on social media of women (almost naked) and he likes them. I don’t want to be that woman that is jealous, however I feel like I’m being disrespected. I do have my own insecurities of my body image that I continue to work on. For women that are happy with their image and self worth how would this make you feel?
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I know some guys do it. Not all guys do it. I know some women are ok with it, but not all women are ok with it.
I’m personally not ok with it either, and in my relationship is not behaviour my partner engages in.
It’s disrespectful.
If it makes you uncomfortable, regardless of how you feel about your own body, then it’s not ok.
I find it so tacky and disrespectful when partnered blokes do this. Sure, look at the photos if you must but don’t follow the page - they’re usually public profiles anyway - and just don’t hit the like button, it’s not hard. These models will not miss one like from some random bloke they don’t even know exists.
I wouldn’t like my husband doing that. It is disrespectful
I just think that interaction is unnecessary. Guys who are in a relationship but are out there dropping hearts and likes on thirst trap pictures look like massive douche bags.
There's nothing wrong with having a subtle perve but publicly sharing that sentiment by reacting to the posts - to me that's akin to walking up to a girl posing on the beach and telling her "Hey. You're hot".
I unfriended my partner.
He wasn't following chicks or anything like that, one of his friends shared a picture of a woman saying how they don't like waif women but the stock picture was a very well proportioned lady with a tiny waist and firm boobs and butt and perfectly bronzed skin, my partner liked it.
I'm a big, ridiculously pale woman so nowhere near similar and when that came up in my news feed it was like a slap. I cried for days. Then realised, fuck it I don't need to see that shit. Unfriended him and his mates. He didn't do anything wrong and my response was very unexpected, but it was what it was and my solution was to take the trigger away.
No way.
I’m confident with the way I look and I pride myself on having a huge amount of self worth/respect. I don’t think this is the issue here though. you can have all the pride and love for yourself but it can still be down right disrespectful. the issue is you’re not being heard nor are you being respected.
I’ve had this exact issue in the past, except he went one step further and would save those photos on his camera roll. I wasn’t ok with it and let him know… once, twice and then again for a third time. the issue then became the fact he wasn’t respecting me in a whole other way and he was just blatantly ignoring me.