My daughter has been having more and more behavioural issues as of late. If things don’t go her way or something doesn’t work how she wants she lets out this angry scream, will throw things, hit me or as of today point a knife at me. I can’t even remember what it was over but I’m pretty sure I asked her to stop doing something and as usual she started verbally responding to me in an inappropriate way and I asked her to stop speaking to me that way which only escalated her so she grabbed my knife from breakfast and pointed it at me and slightly lunged it towards me. At this point I’m at a loss of what to do, her tantrums are worse now than when she was 2-3 years old and I know it’s not a verbal issue as she has always been ahead in her language but I think it’s rather an emotional regulation issue but I don’t know how to handle it. I have tried everything I can think of in regards to discipline aside from smacking which I refuse to do, and nothing works. Does anyone have any advice.
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You need to seek professional help now.
I’d also for now try not engaging with her when she talks to you in a way that’s in appropriate. It’s ok to not pull her up on everything until you get to the bottom of what’s going on.
Make a long appointment with the GP, ask for a referral to a paediatrician and a child psychologist.
It’s not discipline, it’s understanding and using the strategies to help her cope sos he doesn’t get to this point. Until she can learn to regulate herself - she’s very young for that though, she still needs you to do it for her.
Seek professional help.
Definitely seek some professional help now, this is pretty extreme. As the person above said, no form of discipline or punishment will help. Understanding where this behaviour comes from and how to manage it it going to be the best approach.
In the meantime, lock anything up that she could hurt herself or someone else with.
You're raising a future murderer . Get intervention NOW .
I feel like you could've just left your comment at getting some intervention.
Not sure this poor mum needs to be told she's raising her baby to be murderer in the making...
Agree, something is happening that is triggering this little one to react really defensively. It can be helped though, it needs to be helped to change the path.
😂 Raising a murderer? Because a young child picked up an object in frustration/anger and did an action with it? 🤣 What world are you actually living in mate
Omg she's 5 lol.
Wow. This is ridiculous. A 5 year old is struggling with emotions. This scenario isn't at all uncommon for young children in the moment when dealing with a big emotion. Some counseling will help and so will mum not turning this into something it's not.
I would see a paediatrician… if things are getting worse, not better. There may be underlying Autism or ADHD issues, that once known, you’ll be able to use different strategies to de-escalate the tantrums instead of things getting worse.