Hey fellow mommas.
I have abit of a back story but also asking advice on what’s available help wise.
Does anyone know if there is financial help to relocate after abuse for a teen?
My teenager was indecently assaulted by a boy in her grade at the park. Not falling under sexual assault cause he didn’t “go in her” but we are working with police on the matter to have him charged which may not happy due to their age (14-15). We are applying for a protection order, like an avo to protect her. Small town. One high school so they will see each other. This again is not gaurenteed. Now my thing I’ve said to my daughter is if this avo isn’t granted we are moving. Not the only reason we have tossed up moving. Horrible toxic place here. The school is terrible. Nothing will ever change. But if it comes to that it will have to be quick as she can’t miss much school (already been told by detective to stay home till she sorts the protection order). And I hate the fact she’s so scared about being out of home.
If I had to move. Is there help I can get. It’s shaken me up. Cause I already hated being here and have dealt with a lot of issues with my daughter. But this is last straw and if the school doesn’t kick the kid out and my daughter can be safe. We are leaving. :(
Any advice would be great
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When I was a victim of a crime (home invasion) the police gave me a booklet, that x planned what services I could contact for help.
I’d ask the police if they have a similar booklet, or google victims of crime services in your state.
I suspect if you are entitled it would be slow coming and a pittance, and I’d resort to fundraising to get my kid out of there (if you can without retraaumatisimg her).
She won’t go back to school unless she is protected by an order or the kid is gone. Which I don’t blame her and I won’t allow her there either. But not just school. Not much to do in town and the park it happened in, is where all the teens hang out. So even out of school she’s not safe. It’s very sad.
I’m going to speak to the detective again and suss out what’s available. Never been in this situation so I have a lot going on in my head and I just want out to be honest. I’ve had enough and I want my daughter to feel better :(
I'd leave anyway. If the police need to, they will get in touch via phone and you can deal with it that way. Make arrangements with department of education for work to be sent home and select a new school.
Look at your housing options, rentals etc. Your rights in breaking your current lease or selling. Or renting your home out and moving into a rental elsewhere.
In terms of counseling and mental health, see a new GP for a referral.
Shop around but I'd move.
TRIGGER WARNING: Im going to post here because I was a victim at school as a teen. I was sexually assaulted. They used to call it rape, then they changed it to sexual assault with varying degrees, now they are downplaying it more and that just adds to the trauma. Your daughter was sexually assaulted even if he didn't go all the way. In fact, a SA counsellor told me it's sometimes worse because your mind constantly replays all the what ifs. I wanted to leave and never go back. The principal of the school said the perpetrator told him I wanted it. I was grabbed from behind, dragged, knocked to the ground, clothes ripped off, screaming the entire time and had other boys witnessing. The Principal didn't want the police or media attention at the school. Even without him present you do not realise how cruel other teens can be. I was tormented by other students and even a male teacher. Please, please get her out of there! My parents pushed me to stay and said they didn't want me to 'run away from my problems'. I lasted one more year. The boy approached me at school and asked to borrow money in the lunch line. The school did not warn me he was coming back. He hid behind a diagnosis and was awarded at assemblies for his progress. All my plans of finishing school and going to uni went down the toilet. I still recall a female police officer as the person who was angry and by my side and a teacher who approached me and said they didn't want me to quit. Get her out of there and help her to find a good SA counsellor with experience. I eventually went to UNI as a mature age student and graduated with distinctions. There is hope for her but she needs love and support. 100 percent back her in her decisions and just be there for her. Believe me you remember who was there for you <3 Keeping her safe is more important than anything else. An AVO would have meant nothing to me.