Poor hubby and I have not had a night alone in 5 years since our first was born. We now have 3, the youngest being 3 months.
Although hubby and I haven't spent as much as a day apart in the last decade I feel like I miss him. The kids just take up so much of our time and affection that there's not much time in between for each other.
Any affection toward each other is in passing and any action we get has to be sneaky and rushed. Not very romantic.
I am hoping after bub is ready (won't take a bottle yet so we cannot be apart) we can start doing date nights once a month and maybe even get a room overnight once in a while. It's not even about sex alone, I just want to feel his touch, hold his hands and have each other's undivided attention again.
We just worry about the kids though and how they will cope without us, being so young. Also leaving 3 kids with family overnight is a pretty big ask is it not? Babysitters are not something we've tried and I feel apprehensive about it.
Does anyone do date nights? Should we just wait until they are older? It would be nice to hear from other mums with similar experiences that could offer some advice.
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Start small, and work your way up. If you go big the first time you’ll be too anxious to enjoy yourselves.
Organise a relative or babysitter. Feed baby, hand him over and race out that door, for a walk/dessert/coffee whatever and come home, come home in time to feed the baby again.
Unless your baby needs to be fed constantly, which is unusual they can manage for 2 hours.
The earlier you start to carve out time for yourselves the better. Your kids need there parents to have a fulfilling relationship. It’s super important for them, to see you wanting time together.
As baby gets older and feeds are further apart then you can do longer date nights and your kids will absolutely be ready for sleep overs etc.
Kids are resilient. The first time you go on a date night, whether you have family look after them or a babysitter, they will either love it or hate it. Either way, do it regularly, and they will get used to it.
Honestly, the kids will probably love having a sleepover with family! Provided you have family who are willing and wanting to do it!
I feel that it's really vital for mums and dads to have a break from being mums and dads🙂