Hi all!
Long time reader first time poster... my DD (7) imo is the most beautiful girl on the planet, but she has started showing signs of an eating disorder... for background we eat well, neither her dad or I are overweight and her brother is super into sport. We don't restrict food but we have always said fruit and "proper food" before lollies and treats. She will cook with me frequently.
However, given the chance she will avoid eating. She has made comment on her weight and appearance. She is very tall for her age and very slender.
We have recently found she is hiding the chocolate and lolly wrappers in her room. Assuming she takes them out of the fridge when we are all sleeping.
I think my question is what do I do? How do I handle this? Do I wait and see or do I speak to her now? Please help!
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If you are worried about an eating disorder then she needs to see a child psychologist asap. Get the Dr to refer you and get a care plan. Don’t tell your daughter why. They can get it out of her and support her. She may be being bullied.
It also could just be her age and what she is seeing on tv or any social media, school friends.
I would also suggest backing off and allow her more treats, so she doesn’t feel the need to hide them. This is normal for kids. I always find wrappers in my kids rooms. I don’t react to it. I tell them pick their rubbish up after they eat and if it was specifically for them, then they should ask.
I think maybe you have restricted her to much. It’s not a bad thing but it’s probably what has caused this. She wants to eat things like her fiends prob eat. Take her to maccas or somewhere and see if she eats it.
If she is avoiding, I also suggest a blood tests and visit to your gp for psychologist. You gp will know. You need to nip it in the bud now with professional help. Keep it from her why. Speak with the Dr without her knowledge and let the Dr know what’s happening.
A lot of kids at school also avoid eating these days. Speak with school and ask them to make sure she’s eating her full lunch.
Worst advice… don’t lie to her or do shit behind the kids back. She will resent mum big time for it!
P.s talk to her about it to try and come up with a plan, I really doubt she would have an eating disorder at her age.
Get over yourself clown! I’m speaking from experience. She may not have an eating disorder, there could be many reasons for it. She doesn’t need to tell her young daughter she has an eating disorder. She may not. The psychologist will help her sort through this. Stick to your own reply know all, who knows nothing!
AT WHAT POINT DOES THIS SAY LIE TO HER DAUGHTER 🙄 HERE WE GO AGAIN. THERE IS ALWAYS ONE ON EVERY POST!!
Seeking professional advice and support for your child when you’re concerned is great advice, in no way is it lying or being deceptive. You get the info and Answers you want. Specific to your situation, it’s the best advice anyone can give you.
Eating disorders are serious, don’t fuck around with that, and professionals really do help you to work out what you’re doing and what you could be doing and to understand why and the theory behind it so you know you’re on the right track. It’s totally worth it.
100 % agree and this original reply 🙌 ignore the other comment.