So my partner has a two year old daughter and we have her on weekends and every time I'm constantly trying my best to make sure she has all her bits to go home with but if I forgot about something I get moaned at and I can't help feeling pissed off but am I right in saying it's not my responsibility to make sure she has everything for home? I do try
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Definitely not your responsibility. If she is only 2 you can't have been with him long. I hope he's not got with you because he can't deal with things by himself like parenting and cleaning. Next time he has her find someone to visit for the entire time, if he gets angry because you're not there then he is in the relationship for the wrong reasons. You're not his nanny.
No way. You say excuse me, that’s your kid and that’s your job. Step back out and don’t even be around or help, and if he doesn’t like it that’s all you need to know.
Some men just want a nanny with benefits on the side.
Sorry you have been treated like it’s your fault. It’s not your fault. His 2 year old daughter and her stuff is his responsibility.
Yes it’s not your issue it’s the parents and it’s petty! They are lucky to have you in their lives &
Taking on that responsibility of a 2 year old. If it keeps going walk away. I think he is using you to his advantage. Tell him to do it himself! The child isn’t your responsibility and he lacks a lot respect. He should be grateful for you.
Next time he has his child, go away without him and do something for the weekend and let him deal with everything himself. You need to put a stop to it now and make it very clear, that she isn’t your responsibility. Don’t allow yourself to be used as a nanny
Dad needs to look after his just like he’d need to if you weren’t in a relationship. This is a bad sign and should be a big red flag. Take notice, because you are learning his attitudes towards parenting, and his attitude his, you have to be responsible because he’s a man.
Tell him to get his crap together and parent, or run for the hills.
Thank you everyone I thought I was just crazy we've been together 2 years but he's been seeing her probably over 6 months and I do love her as my own but i do have my own child and I'm constantly stuck taking responsibility for forgetting bottle,nappies etc although I'm the only one running around trying to sort her stuff to go home. He was good when she first started coming but now I get up with her in the morning and clothe and shower her and the only time I do really get my own time is when I'm cleaning and I ask him to watch the kids for 2 seconds
He has got way to comfortable with you looking after her and expects it. Take a step back and stand up for yourself here. No more. Make him do it. You have your own child. There is no one there doing things for you. Make him be a responsible dad, like he should be. Instead of blaming you.
Why hasn't he organised bottles and nappies and clothes etc to keep at his house? That is part of parenting!!
This is his child, whom he has every weekend. Not just some kid he's babysitting!
It shouldn't just be up to her mum to pack these things so he doesn't have to and it shouldn't be up to you to organise her to go back to mum!
I'm also pretty willing to bet that you do most of the heavy lifting when it comes to her over all care, am I right? Because I'm highly doubtful that a man who can't even be arsed to pack a few things in a bag isn't doing baths, bedtimes, organising meals, toilet training, teaching appropriate behaviour and all that stuff that comes along with parenting.
Tell him to step up and help. I'm that stwo mum who does it ALL, and it's exhausting
🚩 and so unattractive! Run