Okay. My hubby and I are around the 50 age mark. Married 18 years. He is morbidly obese and I'm the correct weight for my size. His weight has fluctuated greatly between our marriage.
We both have very different views on food. Growing up he was taught to eat everything on the plate. I grew up eating until you where full. If there was something new on the plate you had to try it. All our children follow me. My husband basically inhales food. He can start a meal after us and finish before us, He is also addicted to diet soft drink.
So he made a remark today about his single friend getting more sex on tinder than we do. His friend (has a adult child). Not in a relationship.
I was taken back. Yes we don't have sex as much as a single person (3 young kids), but being the weight he is it's hard for me being petite to do certain positions. We are basically stuck to a few positions. After a while that becomes boring. He also blames my lack a of organism on me taking anti depressants. Not the case. I can masturbate and reach an organism.
I got the feeling that he would prefer to be single and getting more sex.Rather than losing the weight for his health and family. If he lost weight we would have more sex.
Obese vs Correct weight relationship
Obese vs Correct weight relationship
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He was just dropping the hint for more. Don’t read into it too much but you do need to speak to him about his Health and being over weight. The Dr can help with medication or injections to help get him kick started. It’s worth a try. I have found the injections much better with side affects. It far out weighs the risks of being obese. He doesn’t sound like he will cut back meals and diet and Expercise, so speak to the Dr.
I don't know that I would have read into it that much, I think he may have offended you? Anti depressants definitely can stop orgasm or slow it down, it is easier to orgasm by yourself or with toys so that's a bit of an unfair call. My hubby is big too and the best sex is with him on top kneeling over me with my legs wrapped around his waist, alot if pressure on my clit while he drives me it is great, try it if you haven't yet.
Sounds a little like my life. 50 yrs old in 10 months. Together 17 years . One kid who’s 17. Hubby is 161kg. I’m 59kg . We just find positions that work well for us. We have sex 2 to 3x a week
If I were your husband, I would get fit, lose weight, look amazing and dump your arse and have amazing sex with someone else.
Agreed. If this was written by a man, I guess it would that’s what the sisterhood would be saying.
He’s told YOU he wants more. Take the reins, do something different. What would you be telling a woman if her partner said this about her? Leave? Well …
Obese vs correct weight relationship?? What even is that? What kind of person views their spouse that way? This is a shallow person who is repulsed by their partner because he is overweight. The husband doesn’t need to change his appearance to be loved or wanted, he just needs to find someone who is less shallow and actually loves him for who he is.