Gelous / Insecure men..
Can they actually be helped ??
Has anyone actually helped a man with this issue an had a postive outcome or an I doomed...
Over the reassuring thing an being open honest, got me no where 😞
Gelous Gelous / Insecure men..
Gelous Gelous / Insecure men..
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If they have a jealous/controlling streak, it doesn’t get better. The more you reassure them and shrink your life, the more you need to reassure them and shrink your life further, until you have nothing. You will be left with no friends, difficulty keeping a job where men work etc.
Go your separate ways as soon as you can.
The one time my partner tried that shit on me I told him that I'm with him because I want to be, not because I have to be, and when that changes he'll be the first person I tell.
Hasn't been a problem since, because once I said it he knew it was true. I don't rely on him for what he can provide. I provide just fine.
Jealousy is a normal human emotion. So is insecurity, we all feel those things from time to time
The problem is, a lot of people don't know how to handle those emotions in a healthy way. So within a relationship that can often look like possessiveness, neediness, control and even emotional abuse.
If your partner is exhibiting those kinds of behaviours, you probably do need to be done with him.
They’re dangerous and unless they do the work internally with a professional, they won’t get better.
Nope it’s not your issue to fix. Changing to ‘help’ them is exactly what they want. Keep firm boundaries and keep your behaviour healthy - that’s the best way to help him, he either gets on board or he is doomed to fail.
*jealous
Jealousy is a curse
It don't get better if anything it gets worse