Child support is an effing joke!
I got a letter today saying that my ex only has to pay $446 a year, and they've taken almost $1500 OFF his owing amount.
I'm sorry, but why should I be left to pay for EVERYTHING while he gets to go and do whatever the hell he wants too and only has to pay sweet eff all for a child he wanted so badly?!
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Speak to him and ask him to spend more time with his child. It will help out his relationship with his child and he can pay for things in his time. They will catch up with him at tax time if he owes you money.
It is a joke. Isn't it funny how, as the primary carer it doesn't matter how little money you get you are still 100% financially responsible for your child but someone who decides to quit work or dodge the system is 0% responsible for their own children. Their bill should just keep racking up until they get their shit together and help support the kids they put on this earth. If you think he's being dodgy get as much info as you can and dob him into the tax office. Even if you spend a year gathering evidence like holidays, restaurants, clothes anything a normal broke person wouldn't be able to afford. If he gets caught it's all worth it, my ex went from a zero income for 2 years to owing me 30 thousand. No sympathy for him as his kids went without a lot because he was too selfish to help support them.
I completely understand how you’re feeling!
My ex husband has the kids 4 nights a fortnight and pays $9 a month. We have 2 children. He doesn’t put in for anything else, I pay for it all. His income dropped dramatically once we went through child support. He lowered his income so he doesn’t have to pay anything but I do suspect he is working cash in hand somewhere.
They think the money they have to pay is for you when it’s not! It’s for the children!
Call child support and see if you can do a reassessment. Let them know if all the things you have to pay for.
He doesn't have anything to do with my son, and we have an Intervention order against him, so I can't gather any evidence (plus I have no bloody idea where he is).
So I have my son 100% of the time and pay for 100% of everything he needs, he's never gone without.
It just sucks that he gets away with this shit and I'm the one who is left picking up the pieces.
In your situation it's probably best, why would you want money from him?
I'm in a similar boat. Ex has skipped town, not paying any cs at all & doesn't otherwise contribute. Makes over $30/hr + bonuses.
I just see it as a blessing.
1. It's just one more way I can show he's a deadbeat if need ever be
2. It's one less thing for him to hold resentment over - which is dangerous in my situation
3. I don't get the fortnightly reminder that the prick even exists.
I get the frustration but I don't want him in my life. I don't want my son to turn out like him, so him having no contact (by his choice, I've never stopped him) is perfect for me. I didn't see who he was until it was too late. But I'm happy to let him get away with no cs if it means I get away with raising my son in a safe, secure & stable household
Some how, my partner's X, she managed to make a 8k debt go away. We don't know how. We had to pay back Centrelink family payment to cover her c's, but she didn't have to pay us anything for the kids.
She probably adjusted her tax returns for previous years putting her income down, a clever accountant probably did it. Or her income has been wrong. Double check she hasn't wrongfully adjusted percentage of care.