Hi first time poster.
I have been having a few health issues lately. After numerous visits and tests done by the doctors, they believe it could be anxiety and stress related. They asked what was going on in my life and I struggled to admit that I am having issues with my husband. He attends the same clinic and I am concerned about what they may say to him. He is the type of person who never takes responsibility for himself and everything is everyone else's fault. I am also having a few issues with work and he is blaming work for me being so stressed and why I am sick. Work blames him. What no one realises is that they are all causing this and the blame game between them isn't helping my anxiety. I am not sure what to do. My biggest issue is my relationship with my husband. He is the type of person that can go from Dr Jekyll to Mr Hyde. He isn't physically abusive but can be emotionally and mentally. Even our two children are scared to tell him things because they don't know how he will react. He has depression and anxiety but blames us for it as a contributing factor because he said we don't want to do anything with him. We have tried but my youngest is scared to do anything with him anymore. I m so anxious all the time and it impacts on my health
How do I reduce anxiety and stress?
How do I reduce anxiety and stress?
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I suffered anxiety and depression when I lived with my abusive ex. It all lifted when I got away from him. I do not think we even realise how draining emotional abuse is. It sounds like your children are also anxious. Please start to pour something into your own health and self care. The best thing I did was linking up with a counsellor, starting to challenge the prison he had me in by going for a walk in the arvo and trying to find friends I could talk to. It helped me to finally find the strength to leave but it took time. You may benefit from couples counselling if you want to keep trying but my ex was not suitable due to the abuse.
Who cares if your husband blames work and work blames your husband?
This is YOUR life.
You get to decide what stresses you out.
It wouldn’t matter how I feel, if it reached the point my kids were walking on egg shells due to their dad, I’d be out.
There’s no way I would want my kids to have anxiety, I know how horrible it can be.
There was a post recently about a six year old with PTSD, can you even imagine?
Their environment now will affect them for the rest of their life, time to leave.
To add my children are teenagers almost 19 and 17.
Im in my 40s and still scared to tell my mum things. I guess I have always been an anxious person. My mum was emotionally abusive and now I think hubby could be to.
I know people say I should leave but he is the type of person who would say, how am i abusive? I dont hit you. He wouldnt believe he is doing anything wrong. Im at a loss as Im more scared of his reaction if I was to leave.