I have been told not to write into here anymore by my brother. His wife saw comments people made to my last post and they were concerned the comments would affect my mental state? They have advised me to talk to a counsellor only and not post on here. I can’t afford the fuel and all counsellors tell me is to go and do craft. Which I do. Through a mental health plan I only have ten sessions allowed by the government.
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Counsellors or psychologists?
Psychologists teach you coping strategies for specific issues. Sure enough, if you're crafty and find that enjoyable it would be encouraged to continue but if you're not being taught the rest of the strategies you need a new one.
Really what business is it of your brother, or his wife, that you write in looking for advice? Do they try to control you rather than protect?
If you don't have the strength to ignore the bullshit responses, and let's face facts, there's certainly a fair few self righteous, judgey bitches here, then they might be right in that this isn't a safe place for you. That's your choice to make though, not theirs.
Whatever you do, have a support in place. If it's not here it must be somewhere, none of us are meant to get through completely alone.
Well it's good to see you're not listening to them! Nothing wrong with posting here but maybe make your posts a bit less identifiable so those close to you can't recognise you.
They're probably worried about you.
A public internet forum isn't necessarily the best place to be when you're mentally fragile and emotionally vulnerable.
I wrote in a while back and a couple of the responses were so vicious, like completely disproportionate to the topic of my question Kind of vicious. I'm fairly resilient so I managed to shake it off but I'd be lying if I said those comments didn't ruin my day. Had I not been in the greatest mind set, who knows how much of a negative affect it may have had?!
You also do have to be really careful about what you put out there. Your personal information in the wrong hands could be very damaging.
Psychologists are great and you can get a really lot of help from just a few sessions. 10 is a lot.
Also try out womens centres near you. They normally have free counselling, and also morning tea chats.
I think they are worried about you or that the responses were fitting or nice, and a professional who gets to know you and your whole situation will always be best.
My advice is often talk to a psychologist. The reasons for that is
1. We are untrained
2. We are advising on a couple of paragraphs and that’s not a true representation
3. We often get it wrong
4. We can’t ask questions to get a fuller picture
Ask your psychologist about Telehealth appointments. Many offer this service these days, or ask for a referral.
If you use up the 10 appointments your psychologist and GP can arrange a top up of your mental health care plan. I’ve done this a few times over the years.
That is good advice by them. Some People on here are capable of tipping someone over the edge. Nothing is worth adding to your mental state. Please make sure you see a psychologist or psychiatrist for the right treatment. If you don’t think your mental health can handle these comments, best you never post again & protect that. It’s good you have family looking out for you.