I have been with husband for 25years (married for 18) we have a 10year old daughter but I am so checked out of the marriage, we haven't had sex in 7 months
He is a great Dad and I love him for that but I am not in love with him.
I feel so controlled if I don't go to the gym I'm lazy (I work full time and am exhausted some days)
He is very active and I'm just not we have just grown apart.
I enjoy going out for lunch He would rather go for a hike and will get annoyed at me if I don't want to.
We have a very small mortgage but I am just so scared if I leave if I will be ok. We would have 50/50 shared custody.
I don't have access to his bank so don't know how much savings we have i know it's around $90k) but and what happens if I leave and he moves to money (he is the kind of person that would try to hide it and transfer it to his brother)
I'm so scared of the unknown it's holding me back.
How do get the courage to leave
How do get the courage to leave
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Well if you’ve checked out already and don’t love him anymore no advice will be worth it, other than just do what makes you happy Chick.
You need to ask yourself is it un fixable? People grow and change and marriage is hard work I don’t know your situation but 25 years is a long time have you spoken to him about your feelings to see where your both at sometimes you need to make sacrifices and compromise on things he likes to hike you like to lunch so why not do both so your both happy after 25 years it’s normal to feel dormant about a relationship but you need to work at it find that spark and why you married in the first place only you can decide of it worth it or you just want to walk away, but if he’s reasonable then you should be able to talk about it.
My husband and I make time to sit and talk about us and how we’re feeling, we go on regular dates and weekends away without our children to ensure that we still have th opportunity to be a couple and not just mum and dad doing the same thing day in day out packing lunches dropping kids off working etc we make us time because that’s super important we fell in love for a reason and created our family but we deserve to still be us.
It’s hard! Sounds like you would be ok financially ( you can claim 50& of his savings) that makes a big difference. I left my husband nearly 15 years ago and it was the hardest decision I made with kids aged 12, 8 and 6 but it was the best decision! I have made many mistakes since but have never regretted breaking up with him and now am with the love of my life who i adore!