TBH I am not exactly sure what I am asking here...I suppose I am trying to sort my head out so hopefully your responses will help with that.
A bit about me...Married to my husband for 20 years and children.
A while ago I was invited to an event with a friend and her friends. I instantly clicked with one of the ladies...as the night went on and we became really close. Nothing physical happened but since then I can't stop thinking of her...I have never felt like this before so totally confused.
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If you're happily married, I'd just treat this like any other crush and it'll fade away over time. It's normal to be attracted to people, being married doesn't switch off natural feelings.
If you're not happily married and this isn't the first time you've questioned your sexuality, then it may be time to do some soul searching.
It makes no difference if this is a man or woman. The question is whether you want to cheat and break up your family or not. If not, then focus on your husband and family and make sure you don't have contact with this woman again.
Are you questioning the feelings as you're married or because it's another woman?
As someone below said, it's perfectly normal to have crushes even when married. Just don't act on them. If it's the woman thing that is throwing you, then I also think sexuality is more fluid then most realise. Sit with the feeling for a bit and see how you feel. You maybe be bisexual, or bi-romantic or maybe it's a one off with this particular woman. You don't have to label it unless you want to though.
So is this you wanting to leave your marriage or cheat and stay with you husband?
I would speak with your husband and see what he says first. As a married person, there is always a second person involved in all of the outcomes of your choices.
Sit with this for some time before doing anything else
Have zero contact with her
Is she married or in a relationship
This could rock the boat for all involved
Patients is the key here
Speaking from experience
Trust me on this. I am speaking from personal experience. Walk away from this person and scenario now. Nothing good will come of it.