I’m finding ex’s new partner talks to me quite rudely. They both took off with my son and hid him from me in Brisbane. They did not even put me down as mother when they enrolled my son in a new school. I took it to court and got parenting orders in place. He is 19 next week so the parenting orders are no longer valid. They ignore any text messages or calls I make in regards to my son. He is in south east and there is not even a response if they were ok through the flooding.
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Really sorry you went through that and are still going through it. I have also been alienated from one of my kids and even now he is 22 and contact with him is much easier as they let him have more control over his life but sometimes it is still very difficult to see him as he still lives with them and he won't go near me if he knows its going to cause trouble for him. Are you the same Mum who wrote in about her 18 year old not being able to talk to you? There were some really good suggestions there. Just ignore the people who don't understand. You can call police for a welfare check and also know that many places don't have phone service or power so contact will be difficult no matter what.
It's not 'they' it's 'he'. It's his father who took him and doesn't respond, his partner isn't the issue. Plus your son is old enough and most likely chose to go with dad. I feel this post is very one sided.
Not the OP but educate yourself on Parental Alienation please.
If they did it together, it's they. If the partner wasn't complicit, she would be able to choose to do something to make the situation right. Look at it this way, if a couple abduct a child that one of them is the aunt/uncle of, they both get criminal charges. If a parent murders their child and their partner knew it was happening and did nothing to stop it and then helped cover it up, the both get criminal charges.
The partner in this situation could have easily removed herself from being a part of this at any point by doing something as simple as answering a text or giving her phone to the child and saying, call your mum so she doesn't worry about you with the floods.
No. It's HE . And at his age I'd lay off the parental alienation blame. The kid isn't 8. He's 18.
Do you think it stops at 18?
18 , 1o , whatever, Could say the same if he was 28, 38, ..... he's an adult.he will come round when he's ready there's a reason he doesn't see his mum we only have one side. Also boys are different to girls , they sometimes don't seek out the other parent as readily and there may be nothing in it at all. Mum could be completely over thinking this.
Does your son have a phone, facebook, anything you can contact you on? Can you help him to financially get out of the situation so that he isn't alienated from you?
If he is a consenting adult, hopefully he has the mindset that he is able to contact you if he wishes. Do you know whether he has an interest in contacting you?
So strange ‘exa partner talks to you rudely’ is on the list of worries. They clearly want to cut you off and alienate you, that’s the issue here. My advice is to look into why a 19 year is doing this. What’s the history, how do you move forward properly.
Im sorry this has happend to you. But if he is 19 then hes legally an adult and can make his own mind up, as hard as that is
Although orders end on their 18th birthday, orders become null and void at 14yo in Australia. Once a child is 14, they can do as they please in terms terms of who they want to live with. I have been through this twice now with kids chosing to live with their other parent, when the other parent was on supervised contact.
Honestly, your son is an adult, contact him directly. You don't need to go through them