I'm not sure what to do. I have been married to my husband for 14 years. We have two sons, 13 and 9. We love each other but have alot of stress. I'm physically disabled, have mental health issues and work full time and my husband is a stay at home dad and he also works 4hrs at night and has heart problems. We have money problems and we have many other stresses and worries.
The issue is my husband sometimes has angry outbursts. It's like his patience completely runs out and he starts shouting. Hes fine one minute and then something small will happen and he will have an outburst. Depending on the day he says it's not his fault, other days he admits there is a issue.
What should I do? I worry about the influence on my boys but also my husband.
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There is a problem and you both know it. He needs to see a gp get a mental health plan and see a psychologist. Maybe it's his way of coping with stress and he will need to learn new ways to cope with it instead or maybe there is something more going on like an undiagnosed disorder.
It also sounds like maybe he needs to get out a bit more, join a gym, a boxing class, a men's shed or something like that as I suspect he's struggling with his responsibilities. Start with a gp and go from there
Maybe he isn’t as well as he pretends to be. I know some days when I am
In pain and have health issues on my mind, I tend to have outburst too. Im so focused on what is wrong and trying to deal with the pain that I end up angrier at eveyone than I should be. The pain I hide really does it to me. It’s so shit. I feel for both of you. It’s not easy.
Stress rears its head in soo many different forms and we all deal with it differently.
Your husband needs to sort himself out. We all snap sometimes, but if he’s under pressure and his fuse has gotten short he needs to take ownership and change that. He can control it. There are strategies.
I was thinking this too. He knows he has a problem, but what is he doing to change so it doesn’t keep happening. He needs to see his GP for a mental health care plan and referral to a psychologist. If he isn’t willing to seek help, then separation until he does, and you can see that he is consistently trying to make changes.