Please help. Partner has recently moved in with 12 year old stepson. Stepson has been destroying my property and stealing things that belong to me. Only doing this to my things. He doesn’t have any contact with his mum and no other family around so he is with us 100%. What do I do? I love my partner but I can’t keep dealing with this behaviour every day. Please help.
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I would guess if the no contact with mum is a recent thing (meaning he can remember and had a relationship with her) then he's somehow taking out that anger on you and it's something he needs professional help with. Or he could just like it being him and his Dad and hates the idea of sharing him so is going to make your life a misery for getting in the way. Whatever the reason, it is probably a good idea for your partner to move out until these issues have been sorted. It's not fair on you to be this kids scapegoat no matter what his reasons are, and its also not fair on the child to make him live with another family if he has serious issues that need dealing with.
What was the transition like for him moving in? How long has stepson known you? How often has he visited and spent time with you before the move in?
Did he like you before he moved in?
Sounds like Dad has a or of work and communication to do with his son. Did he find out his son felt about moving in?
Without a lot more info, I can only assume, that dad didn’t handle the transition very well and now the kid is making his feelings known.
Dad needs to move out, and get to work finding out what’s going on with his kid.
Why did dad move in if this behaviour was happening? Was it a rush decision? Partner sorts him out or moves back out is the solution.
Simple. Ask them to move out until he grows up. Little shit .
Wow, just wow...
Does your partner beleive you
If not set up cameras
My SS14 was stealing my stuff from shed
And hiding it all in his room
I was fumming
I spoke to his mum my partner & she wasn't sure weather it was true
Until he stole her $300 fishing real
Not to mention he broke it
That is when my partner took it seriously
She spoke to him he denied everything as he matured things got better as I do hope this happens to your stepson