I officially seperated from my husband 8 months ago although it had been over for a long time. I started seeing someone casually shortly after and it has naturally progressed into a relationship. I think I actually love this man, and I love being around him, but I'm so hesitant about committing further. I feel like I've had no time to just be alone. I think he would support this but I'm not sure that would be fair to him. Also, he's a good person and I want him in my life.. I think I'd regret ending things. How do I figure out what to do? ðŸ˜
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What exactly would you do differently ‘just being alone’? Why did you get with him if you wanted to be alone? I suspect you’re not a being alone type of person. May as well let a good relationship play out now it’s started. Why not? Just make sure you’re still doing all those being alone things that are important to do. Build your network, connect with your friends, make sure it is a good relationship, settle your children in, take frequent time to be alone.
I get it, I needed time to myself after splitting with my ex just to find myself again. If you don't want to break it off with him just keep it casual for as long as you need, no need to rush into a serious relationship.
You can still see this man and have a relationship, just don’t rush into moving in and just keep enjoying each other’s company. Spend time alone still and see him. It doesn’t need to be everyday.
Don’t end it. If you are happy then why would you end it and possibly not have the chance to rekindle that relationship? Take each day as it comes. Spend the time enjoying each other and building the relationship up and getting to know each other. There’s no need to be full on and move in together and all that other stuff.