Hey everyone!
I am planning to take my partner over to my home country at easter to meet my mum and have had my mum on the phone saying to me "how will we spend any time together when your partner is here?" I calmly said we could do if that's what she wanted. Now I am anxious about going due to how my mum gets when she feels like she isn't getting her own way and how jealous she can be of me and my partners relationship. The trip to see my mum isn't the only reason I want to go home, I want to show my partner where I lived and for us to have some quality time together also as a new couple. I guess my question is how do i relay that to my mum in a way she can't have a go at me for?
The funny thing is I am 40 years old!!! And i have a 19 year old son to consider as she has been known to involve him in things that really aren't his concern!!
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Make your schedule really clear, even draw up a calendar and highlight it. I have this week for you and family, then I have this week for showing him around. Then I have these three nights before we leave to spend with you. And book two nights somewhere else for your quality time on the way in or out or both.
i love this idea of drawing up a schedule. Its a 'her' i will be showing around. Thanks for your input, i appreciate it. x
If she doesn’t like it stay somewhere else. Also spend some days on your own with your mum but don’t take her shit or let her dictate.
yes i was considering staying with my brother whilst i am there instead of my mums house to avoid any drama!! thanks x
What if you stayed a little longer?
See partner off at the airport, spend a couple more days just focussed on seeing your mum (be gentle, it's been a rough few years for everyone, how much is she looking forward to seeing you) then you head home too.
I think you have left some parts out. Does your son live in your home country ? Has your mum been looking after him?
Why is mum concerned about your partner ?
Also I don’t see anything wrong with a mum wanting to spend one on one time with their child at any age.