I guess I don't really know what I am asking, maybe just want your thoughts.
I am married with two young kids. We have a pretty good relationship most of this time. We both work full time and provide for the household.
Now the problem is, when I am sick or need support in an emotional way. I can't get it. I just recently came down with a bad stomach flu was vomiting all night into the morning and felt awful the next day. My husband had planned drinks with some friends. He did kindly ask if I wanted him to cancel and I said no as long as he doesn't get to drunk so he can help me and also wrap the night up earlier than he usually would. This seemed like to big of an ask. I can't imagine how he would have acted if he had to cancel it. I am just trying to imagine how he would support me if I was really unwell or couldn't manage and he had to put off other events.
It just makes me sad not to have this kind of support in a marriage.
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Sounds like you need to be tougher with him.
My relationship of 12 years just ended for the same reasons.. although he turned it around on me and made out like I was the problem. I always felt like I was a single mum even though he was here.. I'm not telling you to leave him but just letting you know my experience. I am so much happier now that he is out of the house and was annoyed that I didn't end things earlier. I left it up to him.
Your a grown women and he’s your husband not your child ! Red flag on your part if I’m being honest .. you’ve got a tummy bug , your not dying . Toughen up love.