I really need some help/advice. I'm at a point in my life where I am really struggling with my weight and have been the last few years. Ive just been putting on weight and it hasn't stopped. I work 9 to 5 job in a fast food and also doesn't help that i can't seem to stop myself eating while I am working and saving money on pay day to eat during the week instead of taking my own food to take that healthy. I'm in my early 20s and I am over 130kgs. I am STRUGGLING and I need HELP. As I mentioned ealier I work 9 to 5 and by the time I get home I just wanna sit down and play on my phone. Not clean my house not do anything but just wanna lay down and stuff myself in chips and chocolate and deep fried stuff instead of cooking a healthy dinner for my partner and I. I'm at the point where it's affecting my heart when I go to sleep and have issues sleeping I've wore the same clothes over the last few years cause when I do have the courage to buy new clothes I just break down and get so angry. Being only young and a size 24 also 26 it's so depressing (at my ages and seeing photos of me makes me cry everyday) My sex drive has gone completely my poor partner begging everyday I get so angry and get lose my shit cause I am constantly saying NO and I feel for him cause he just wants to feel loved and close but I refuse cause how I feel in myself and it isn't fair. 😞 my point is I NEED HELP. I tried thinking of going to the gym but for me being on my feet all day I'm just to tired even just to go for a walk around my street/block I am just to tired and gives me anxiety thinking about it cause ill run out of breath and not being able to breath so i give myself anxiety. What I am trying to say is that I need help anyone who can give me help or some advice I really need please. I am begging for help so can feel sexy again in the bedroom i can go clothes shopping without having to break down and get angry and wanna feel happy again. ( I don't want any negative comments as I am already struggling as it it)
Weight loss finding it really hard.
Weight loss finding it really hard.
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Well done for reaching out, I myself am currently trying to lose weight, I've got around 40kg to lose and I'll be happy. I've just started on the "Man shake" not the lady shake that was very sweet but the man shake seems to taste better. My partner used it and lost 45kg over a 6-12 month period. I find home exercise better, ask your partner to join you, get a fit bit and join groups on there that make you want to get to milestones, all these have helped me. Good luck I wish you all the best in your journey.
Frankly, you already know the answer. Put less junk in your gob.
Things I found helpful:
Set a firm date for your diet to start, and prepare for it (mentally and physically). Throw out all the junk food in the house.
Do shopping online for pick up. Buy pre-prepared salads and things like crumbed chicken tenders that you can just throw in the oven, and make extra to take for lunch the next day; or make a sandwich for lunch while you're waiting for dinner.
Cook big batches of things on your days off to freeze & microwave.
Count calories and weigh your food - I use the my fitness pal app to track it.
Buy the mini packs of chips & the mini chocolates - and only eat one.
ALL calories count - FYI there's 140 in a cuppacino.
No soft drinks!!!! Even the sugar free ones are bad for you. Get a cute glittery metal water bottle and refill it, and take it everywhere, even out shopping.
Reward yourself for every 5kg lost - but NOT with food.
Get on some weight loss groups on facebook.
Get your partner on board to support you.
Forgive yourself if you fall off the wagon. If you eat a burger, fine - but don't just say "fk it, I'll start again tomorrow" and gorge on everything in sight for the rest of the day - say "ok, I'll start again next meal".
Take a vitamin supplement.
The biggest lesson that I had to teach my partner was: IT IS OK TO THROW AWAY FOOD. STOP EATING JUST BECAUSE IT'S THERE.
A lot of why you feel so crappy probably isn't just the extra weight, it's likely also the effect of all the grease & sugar you're eating.
Be prepared for withdrawals, junk food addiction is a real thing.
And maybe see a Dr for a mental health plan, they can fix you up with someone who specialises in eating disorders.
I'm down about 15kg in a year, my partner's down 45kg (he's a lot more active than me).
Are you able to join a gym and hire a personal trainer that you can see regularly? Having a trainer that you book into a couple of times a week may help to motivate even on the days where you really are feeling exhausted. Speak openly to them and tell them where your downfalls are. Then they will be able to help guide you. On the days where you feel like you can’t be bothered, text them and tell them that so they can help to encourage you to push past your feelings a little bit. I train with a pt into a small gym and on the days where I feel unmotivated, I will text her knowing that she will give me the nudge that I need. Start small so you don’t burn yourself out. If you can get your body moving, perhaps it will be the motivation that you need to help with your eating too. It is hard work but you can do it 😊
I was like this and my Dr put me on duromine. The small dose got me off to a good start. It’s worth a try. I was always scared of it but glad I tried it.
Start following some amazing inspirational women on instagram who are killing it on their weightloss journey!
Seeing less of sarah is incredibly inspiring!
I also strongly recommend you go to your GP for a full health check up. Bloods done, blood pressure etc. Please get this done. It will be hard but it could save your life! Also get a mental health plan to see a psychologist because it reallt sounds to me you're stuck in a self loathing/self destructive cycle.
Keep fighting the good fight beautiful girl. We all face a difficult challenge in life, perhaps this will be yours?
Talk to your doctor about Ozempic. It's a weekly injection (tiny needle into tummy or thigh which you hardly feel) which makes you feel full ALL of the time. It was originally for diabetics but it has weight loss as a side effect.
There's an Aussie FB group too if you want to find out more.
I have lost 11.6kg since the end of September (11 weeks) without trying.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/785457632219498
I know it's hard, I'm in the same boat atm. I think you just need to be not so hard on yourself and take one day at a time. Set small goals and start slow. Aim to even just change 1 habit each time. I think if you try to change everything at once, it's too much and you will tend to give up quite quickly. Change 1 eating habit each week. Instead of snacking on junk, have a cup of herbal tea instead for example. Always have water around you as well. I find that helps. As you change your eating habits, you will find that you will also gain back some of that energy. Start slow on exercise, it's so hard to get back into it. Go for short walks to start off with, even if it's just 10 mins. Get your partner moving too and go together. You need to remember that it's a marathon, not a sprint. Set small goals. For example, drinking 2 litres of water a day at least, cutting out soft drinks.
You got this, just believe in yourself..xx
I have ditched drugs alcohol and smoking, but omg ditching bad eating habits is what I find the hardest!
The hardest thing is we eat because we feel like shit, we gain weight, we feel more like shit and then we eat more! Arg I totally feel you.
Its totally linked to how we feel, so if getting professional help is a possibility for you I would totally do that. For me the cost of seeing a professional is out of the question. A couple of months ago I found something that works for me. Its called 70 day hard. Basically its a series of rules to follow for 70days
Drink a certain amount of water (i aim for 8 cups)
Read 10 pages of a book a day.
Excercise twice a day (one must be outdoors)
Stick to a diet.
So my routine has become getting up early and taking the dog for a walk, sticking to a certain number of calories (i use my fitness pal)
Coming home reading my 10 pages and having a coffee and at the end of the day doing some kind of dance youtube video.
I have completely made this about my mental health and not about my weight. I think having rules that include things like reading a book or drinking water really helps it become a routine.
In the past I have made the mistake of making extreme changes too soon. For me I have more success in making it a gradual change, like aiming to go for a walk once a day rain or shine, limiting how much sugar I put in my coffee. Make small achievable changes and go from there.
All the very best. For me I woke up one morning and realised at this rate ill come to the end of my life and realise I waisted so much of my life worrying about my weight!