I recently had my third child with my husband. We have been married for seven years, together eleven. Since having our last child I have been feeling very disconnected to him and not having any strong feelings of emotions towards him. When we are just together we dont have anything to talk about. Our relationship has become very boring. He still wants to be intimate quite regularly and I don’t mind (we all have needs that need to be met lol) I have spoken to him about potentially going to stay somewhere else for a few weeks to just give us a break but he doesn’t want to leave the house. I thought maybe it might just give us a chance to both think things over and really work out what we both want. I don’t know what to do in this situation.
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You sound depressed?
Hey girl, sorry things aren't going well. Something I've learned in therapy is feelings aren't facts. Try not to let how you're feeling about him right now dictate the relationship. All relationships have their ups and downs. I was super unhappy with my husband a couple months ago as well, and I thought I'd be happier to call it quits. I started applying for jobs and looking at apartments. Fast forward and slowly but surely things came full circle and we're happier. I started looking inward and making good changes to myself. I think the positive energy I was giving off was attracting to him and it created a more positive relationship in return. I started reading books, painting, working out, taking lots of walks outside, hanging out with mom friends, etc. maybe you could try to pick up a new hobby? Just some advice that worked for me! Hopefully this helps in some way.
You need to communicate with your husband. Your hormones would still be all over the shop too so don’t make any decisions you might regret.