The guy I was seeing has recently broken up with me as he couldn't see himself falling in love with me. We weren't together long and I've been thinking about the reasons why and they seem workable. Thinking about approaching him to discuss how we could change things but not sure whether it's better just to move on.
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If he left you, then please don't chase him. It's time to move on.
Move on. If he can’t see himself falling in love with you it’s a deal breaker.
No, this would be desperate. He was honest with you there is no bargaining with that. Find someone who deserves you, someone you don't need to discuss how things will work, if the love is there you won't need to. There is someone out there for you, enjoy yourself, take all offers to socialise whether you feel like it or not and you will meet someone.
Leave him be.
If he thought the problems were workable, you'd be working through them...
Save yourself the heart ache and move on.
If he says he doesn't love you, believe him.
Go watch or read "He's just not that into you". It's funny, but it's also 100% truth.
Flip this and imagine a woman breaking up with a man and he refuses to accept that and pushes her to change her mind or claims he can change and be better for her…this would be seen as a HUGE red flag.
Let the guy go, he doesn’t love you and knows that. I applaud him for knowing what is and isn’t good for him and moving on.
Sorry to say, if someone can say to you they don't see themselves falling in love, then believe them.
When you think you can work through otz hold on to that. He doesn't feel it, and you deserve to be with someone that feels it, not trying to be loved by someone that doesn't.
Just move on.
I've met thousands of wonderful people that there is nothing wrong with. I've met 1 man I wanted to marry. You and he might both be wonderful people and have everything in common. But he doesn't want to make a life with you. Don't ask him to settle for you. Move on and find another nice person that does want a life with you.
Why worry about it? Tbh it's weird your wanting to approach him.. Just like if a dude wouldn't let go why a chick wouldn't want to be with him.. Everyone would be saying 'red flag', 'he sounds controlling' etc. Just let it go
Yes!!
Move on. That's my advice and I did go back and do it again. It didn't work out.
You want to be with someone who was honest enough to tell you he "couldn't see himself falling in love with you"? Really??? Oof...