I need input on moving kids I have a son in year 9 he is a happy kid with friends he doesn’t want to move and leave his security my other kids are still primary one about to go into year 6 am I making the wrong decision to pull them out of school at this age I need opinions from people who have done this it will be a better life style for all of us and hoping we might be able to get a cheaper life please opinion
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As in move to a cheaper area and change school?
Some kids cope better with a big move and new schools than others, so it really is going to come down to how well your kids deal with adversity and how well they adapt to change.
I can personally attest to how difficult it can be for a high school kid to move away from a school and a social life they're thriving in, my education never really recovered from that disruption.
It's for that very reason my kids have only ever lived in one house and gone to the one primary school (and the subsequent catchment area high school). I would only ever move my kids if it was a matter of survival or if they were so miserable at that particular school and there was another one better suited to their needs.
There is an age where it could be awful, I had a terrible experience. It depends on a lot of things. Stress at end of high school is a huge factor. Kids personality factors in. So does social network. But so does finance.if it comes down to paying the bills, or having a nicer life, that weighs considerably too.
I was forced to move to a different country in grade 2, returned to Australia end of grade 3 was kept down because of it and then moved schools in grade 5 because my mother had personal issues with the principal. I went to high school and was moved in ywar 10 to a new one. This was the 90s so sgaying in contact with my friends was difficult and didn’t happen. I never got to make any solid friendships.
I have on occasion thought of moving to a cheaper area and moving my sons school, but i don’t want him to feel like me and have no friendship connections.
I’d say if you can, leave the kids where they are.
I changed schools at that age (year 10) and wouldn’t recommend it. It should have been a time to focus on study and enjoying the friends I had, instead I was scrabbling to make friends and wasted a lot of energy and time trying to fit in.
As an army brat I changed schools a fair bit.
4 primary schools and 2 high schools.
Walked away with a decent senior certificate. Where it fell short was a direct result of my lack of effort.
At the time I resented having to move to a different high school (going into year 11) but it ended up being the best move of my life. I went through primary school ok and always seemed to be able to make friends easily but started experiencing some bullying at the first high school, I became a loner. At the second high school (several hundred km away) I found my people. My trusted friends are the girls I met at that school. My partner and the father of my son was met at that school. Almost 30 years later we are all as close as ever.
It's not the end of the world. Especially these days with tech the way it is to hold onto friendships as well as make new ones.