I'm the friend no one checks on...
The one that checks in on others but never gets it in return... I'm the friend who doesn't get mentioned in them "I miss this girl" posts...
The one that think I'm doing fine and I'm not... The one who has a great bloke but tells me I'm shit at life every time we fight... I'm the one doing everything I can and get told I could do better...
I'm the friend that is living this great life but contemplates leaving with my kids every other day but financially can't...
I just wish more of my friends could see this post... Caus I'd love just one person could see I was struggling caus I can't reach out.
I'm that friend....
I'm that friend....
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Mental Health, Self Care, Kids
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:-( I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Maybe no-one's checking in on you because you're putting on such a good front & appearing to be the strong, happy one.
Reach out to someone. I'll bet you'd get heaps of support if you spoke up & asked for help.
Also, you really should see a GP & have a chat about depression. They can refer you to subsidised counselling sessions. Maybe you're just at the point now where it's all too much to deal with alone.
Also, re the fighting with your "great bloke" - maybe he's not so great after all. No-one ever knows what really goes on in someone else's relationship. If you're constantly feeling like it's time to run away, then you need help.
Speak to someone. Anyone. Lifeline if you can't bring yourself to talk to a friend.
I’m sorry to hear this. I’m not pressing “post anonymously” on this one.
I’m that friend too. I have spent so much of my life caring about others and very rarely receiving that same care (or anything even close back). I have a few friends who do check in on occasion, and i love them dearly, because of them, i have gained the strength to cut those people who make me feel less than good enough out of my life.
I hope you can get yourself some help, and start to look after yourself more. Sending love x
I'm that friend too :( Are you in Brisbane by any chance? I'll be your friend :)
I’m that friend also 😔 I have 1 friend who regularly txts me but no one else seems to. I give up these days I don’t bother contacting people who don’t contact me. I’m in melb and I would also be your friend xx.
I think it's also important to remember that your friends can't read your mind, they can't know you're not in a good place if you don't tell them!
I had a friend recently send me a huge text telling me she was severely struggling with all the things she had going on in her life. It threw me for six because this friend was always the happy go lucky one, she always had a smile on her face, she was the one who really seemed to have her shit together - I never had so much as an inkling that she wasn't doing alright and I'm usually extremely perceptive.
But I can't tell you how much I appreciated her honesty and vulnerability, because now I know what's going on I can support her.
On the flip side of that, I have another friend who I sense is just treading water at the moment. I have kept in touch and I have tried to reach out but when she keeps telling me she's "fine", what can I do but give her some space until she's ready to let me in?
I’m the friend that doesn’t get told when everyone else is doing something, doesn’t get included in plans, gets forgotten about and purposely gets excluded from events simply because I’m awkward. I’m the one that doesn’t really fit in with her small towns social group. It fucking sucks.
I’m the girl that adds her besties to I miss you posts including the one who’s name won’t show up in my tagged list. I go out of my way to copy and paste it every damn time from saved notes.
I’m the girl who everyone thinks her skin is thick as iron and can handle being treated like shit. Who they all think isn’t as sensitive as this other girl but the reality is I’m broken and years of not socialising has stuffed up my ability to socialise. But I’m also the girl who brushes it off and just keeps going because reaching out falls on deaf ears. Because bitches be bitches and you can’t change them to be who you want them to be. I’m the girl who just keeps going because that’s the only thing I’m strong enough to do. Because fuck them girls and their parties and their plans.