Hi Sister’s
Im a mum of three beautiful kids my my 10 year old foster daughter (who has ADHD, Autism and trauma related issues) a 5 year old girl and a 4 year old boy.
We tried for many years to have children and for a while there we didn’t think it was going to be possible. When we got the chance to have my 10 year old who is blood related we didn’t think twice.
I love my children, But I’m beyond exhausted. I feel like all i do it run after everyone. My house is a mess. Currently I work three days a week. And when i am home the younger two are home with me (the 5 year old will start school next year). I have appointments all the time for the 10 year old. They are so full on. Every time we get on top of something the 10 year will go into destruction mode and destroy things and trash the house.
I have no energy left in me. All i feel like i do is tell them off. We never do anything fun as family. I asked some agency to see if i could get some help and got nothing. My husband works 6 days a week. And thinks life is easy when I’m home with the kids.
At the moment i just so flat i feel like I’m done. I look around at my trashed house and just think its to hard. I send the kids to their rooms to watch tv because i just don't have the energy to interact with them.
I feel like the worse mum, wife and person. And I sometimes think everyone would be better off without me here.
Please help. How do u get your life in order. How do u keep on top of everything.
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Tell your husband to stay home and look after them if he thinks it’s easy. He wouldn’t last a day & he certainly would cope and do all the things that you do. It’s exhausting and mentally draining. You need to get respite for the kids. Keep trying to get some help. Cut back working the 3 days a week or make your husband stay home and you work more. Let him deal with it and all the appointments.
And if he doesn't?
I feel the same and I don’t work. It’s bloody tiring!
You’re not a bad mum, you’re just an exhausted person.
Any one in your shoes would feel the same.
Does the 10 year old get NDIS?
Look into that, you need respite.
On hubby’s next day off leave him at home with the kids while you go out. Visit a friend or family, go sit in a park or on the beach, have a coffee, anything away from home. Don’t prepare anything for the family, let hubby do it all. Every night when hubby gets home ensure you get some me time (make sure he gets some time as well). He works hard, but so do you. He needs to help with the kids and housework when he gets home. He doesn’t get a free pass because he works more than you.