I separated with my child’s father at the start of the year.. it has not been smooth sailing!
Our child is now having a lot of issues at school, in which I only found out because I decided to go down the path of additional support through occupational therapy and the teacher was asked to provide an assessment. It was a full length page of everything our child is struggling with.
I was never made aware of this earlier and it all came to light in term 3 of kindy. So I have been looking at the possibility of a new school for pre-primary which is actually in my boundary. However her father doesn’t want her changing schools as it’s an extra 10 mins drive for him. (I have her 2 weeks he has her 1 week). We have now done a school tour together and he did not ask any questions he just sat in silence.
He doesn’t appear to be bothered that the school she is currently in isn’t the best fit.. only seems to be concerned about the travel time for himself.
They explained the processes they follow and the additional support they provide when it comes to OT and it all sounded amazing.
Has anyone else dealt with this when co-parenting? How have you moved forward? As enrollments are due and he’s not providing any input/feedback. It’s quite frustrating. If I go ahead and just enrol her, I know he will then make a fuss.
There is no communication when it comes to overall decision making and I’m at my wits end!
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Ugh these people shit me. Make an appointment with him to discuss. Take the enrolment forms, and depending on how it goes, ask for the signature, or explain the pros and cons, put travel on the cons, her needs on the pros, changing early on the pros, etc etc. Then of he's not on board, tell him to sleep on it and meet again for a decision. Take the enrolment forms and get it done, one way or another. You can't let these people drag their feet and make everything hard for you, sulking and not giving input then cracking the shits and turning it all upside down after the fact is highly stressful for everyone.
Unless he's being downright uncooperative and refusing to sign any of the necessary paperwork - I'd proceed with the new school.
He came on the tour, so that kind of suggests he's not actively going to try and stop you.
He wants to sulk and not participate in any important educational decisions, that's his problem so don't pander to it.
Your daughter's best interests trump his ego and convenience every day of the week.