My daughter stayed at her grandparents house last night (on her dads side) and she just came to me and said she got scared there because they wouldn't put the light on for her at bed time and she "saw Poppy's doodle". Should I be worried? I'm not sure what I should say or how I should even tackle this.. I don't know whether she's just saying it to be silly or if something may have happened? I feel sick to my stomach. I want to talk to her about it but I don't know where to start or what to say.. She's 3, 4 in May.
TIA xx
3 year old says she saw Poppy's doodle?
3 year old says she saw Poppy's doodle?
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Talk to her about it, ask where ECT find out as much as possible and it will tell you if it was an accident (walked in on him in bathroom or changing) or if he did it more deliberate.
id follow your gut feelings as most of time it doesn't lie.
go from there. But I wouldn't talk to him until you get a better idea with what ur dealing with.
good luck.
Are they more liberal than you are? Maybe they walk around naked/use toilet with door open/bathe with door open etc.
I would find out more but to not ask your child leading questions just ask very general questions, what scared her, why was she scared, etc.
Good luck mumma!
Also there is a blog article on here about child abuse, what to do and what not to do, read that before speaking with your child.
How horrible for you, I would feel sick just as you are. I would be asking more questions but you need to be very careful how you ask and what you ask. I would ask her what made her scared to start with but if her being scared is a separate incident to seeing "poppy's doodle" I would just push a little more and ask how she seen it. Where was she and where was her grandfather and see what she responds with. Good luck and please keep us posted on the outcome. Best of luck to you and your little girl xo
This happens in my house a lot. My parents stay on weekends, my children also go to stay at their house for holidays. My 3 year old is besotted with her Poppy and follows him everywhere, including into the loo or when he has a shower. The poor bloke doesn't get a moment of peace when she's around. She see's his bits all the time and at once stage was quite loud and proud about the fact that Poppy has a penis. There's nothing untoward going on. Yes, ask her some gentle questions if she raises it again, but unless she's showing other signs of something having happened I certainly wouldn't raise it with Poppy or anyone else. It would be absolutely and utterly devastating to be unfairly accused of improperly treating a beloved grandchild over something that is most likely very innocent in nature.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do this the right way and seek help on how to handle this properly. There are professionals who know how to talk to children of her age about these things. My family didn't do this for children in our family until it was too late and it wasn't until years down the track that the unthinkable came out :( (almost exact same situation as yours) We wish we had done it all differently now and would rather the potential upset of an innocent persons life over the missed signs and extended abuse suffered by the children! Also please don't say anything to the grandparents until you have spoken to a professional about it. I hope it turns out to be nothing at all. Good luck x