Hi IM's. My partner and I have just found out that we are expecting number 2. I'm in my mid 30's. We want a sibling for our daughter and to have 2 kids, we haven't been trying very long. Honestly didn't think it was going to happen so quick. Our daughter is 4 this year. We had just gotten to a point where life was getting easier. Now we are scared. I don't really know what we were expecting, we knew we always wanted 2. Can any older mums give me some positive stories about their 2nd child? Did any mums or dads feel the same? Just feeling a little nervous right now.
I know we are blessed to have this happen, just needing some positive encouragement!
2nd baby in mid 30's
2nd baby in mid 30's
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I was also in my mid thirties when I had my second baby. I had a 2 year old when I had my second. You will be fine with your daughter being 4. They are so much more independent at 4 and that will really help you when you have a newborn! I struggled but that was because I had a 2 year old active toddler and a newborn. Just make sure you have friends/family to help out or use daycare to give you a break just with bubs and to catch up on sleep. My hubby went in and got the snip after number 2 cos as much as we love our babies now 2 and 4 we couldn't cope with another and I am now late thirties! Wishing you all the best it is so lovely as they grow and watching them play together! Makes it all worth it!
You will be fine! You are in your mid 30s not your mid 50s. You've done it all before and you will be so much more relaxed because this is your 2nd and won't be anxious about every little thing. Your 4 your old is at a great stage because she isn't a baby anymore and isn't totally dependent on you for everything. I personally think a 3 year age gap or more is perfect!