This is going to sound ridiculous and might just be a lockdown thing ...
I’m 18 months in a new relationship and friends for 10 years before that but it all feels so stagnant now. The first year was doing things that defined us from friends to partners- meeting friends, families and my child, spending 3-4 nights together each week, planning future holidays and now it all feels same same. Doesn’t help that this is out 3rd lockdown. I’m not bored, I love him to bits and I know he’s the one for me. But I feel we have so much potential that we aren’t grasping. We still do nice little things for each other, talk daily (not much to say atm in lockdown), spend all weekends together, have future holidays booked for 21/22 etc.
We’ve always had our own unique rhythm, took us 10 years to be together so I don’t want to muck this up. As I said, it could well be the fact it’s lockdown and all we can do is walk, eat. drink and play games / watch movies but it’s all feeling stagnant.
I am not comparing us to anyone so respectfully it doesn’t help telling me you moved in together straight away and got married 3 weeks later.
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What potential do you think you aren’t reaching?
I’m a bit confused about what you are alluding to.
Is it possible that you're so used to this unconventional "unique rhythm", that you're misinterpreting stable and consistent as "stagnant"?
Ohhh possibly. Can you pls elaborate / explain a little more ?