How to help my kids cope with going through a recovery order. Our orders are 2 months old. This was the first lot of sleep overs, and they have refused to hand the children back, and haven't sent them to school. A recovery order is in the process, but I think they have left town. This is the 3 breach of withholding in 3 years.police normally talk them into handing the children back. We are going back to amand the new orders to the original of supervised.
My kids are going to be a mess.... how do I support them
Recovery order
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I would reach out to your GP to get a referral to a child psychologist for counseling.
Counseling for yourself as well. Most child psychologists do family counseling too.
Get the kids into after school activities and routine. Kids are resilient but routine does wonders.
Goodluck.
Yes we have plans for that but waiting lists in our location a month and months wait. I see a psych every 3 months and he's giving Mr some strategies. They are all in after school sports witch is today, and I'm sure they won't won't sent. On weekends we keep busy with trips. We plan ok keeping to what we would normally do. It's sad that it's come to an order that will require police action. This will be the 4th Tim in their lives the police have taken them off their other parent, the first time, by the state. 2 kids have already self placed and are no longer at school, one in year 10 and th other year 9. Day 2 of term and the ones in my care still haven't been sent. Theu have even closed messenger kids off their phones so we can't contact them. Their own lawyer has tried to make them bring them home and it still won't happen. Because of this, their visits will be drastically reduced witch in the end will affect the children. They do need their parent but they also need to be safe and know they will be coming home after. My child with my partner is beside themselves, and hasn't stopped weeping.
Sorry you are going through this. I have been there twice now with my ex, the first time the kids were quite young and didn't really understand what was going on . The second time was with our youngest, he was 10 at the time, my ex hid him at a friend's house that our son didn't even know, I will never forget his face and the way he ran out when police took me to pick him up, he looked afraid and ran straight into my arms. He slept with me for about a month after that, he was afraid his dad would try to take him while he slept or was at school..all I did was keep reassuring him and that's all you can do. Our son actually asked not to be left alone with his dad after that so I refused unsupervised visits, that's has stopped altogether now due to another matter (child safety ruling not mine).
I also suggest some counselling for you both.