I want to stay with my husband and make it work but he just doesn’t fulfil me. We have been living separate for about 5 months because we were fighting and having several issues however I want to make it work, I want to stay with him. We have two young children also that are affected by the separation. But he is more like a friend to me these days. I hate to say it but he has been friendzoned by me without realising. He doesn’t fulfil me sexually anymore not even to kiss him. It turns me off really and I don’t feel sexy. I have been casually seeing someone who has been a good friend for a couple of years and he completely satisfies me but I don’t know I can build a life with him. He has fallen hard for me but I am reserved as I still have hope to keep my family together (and have been honest with him about it) but can it work if I don’t feel completed by my husband and fulfilled in my own needs or is it a sacrifice that can be made? I’m at a loss to stay and try again or just walk and see what happens.
Note: husband and I are both seeing psychologists to deal with issues.
Stay or walk away
Stay or walk away
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The old husband you’ve had forever will never measure up to the new and exciting.
If you really want to give it a go with your husband, get that spark back, you need to 100 percent focus on him and cut contact with the new shiny toy.
If it doesn’t work out, you’ll at least know you gave it your all.
How does hubby feel knowing he is in the friendzone, doesn't fulfil you and turns you off sexually?
Or how would you feel if he said that to you but wanted to stay in the marriage because it looks good from the outside?
To clarify, husband knows and it’s not cheating. He has been talking to another woman also. We want to find our way back together but don’t know how.
Hes probably talking to someone because you are sleeping with someone? His self esteem is probably in the toilet.
You need to leave, be a big girl and stand on your own two feet. You dont get to rely on him, keep him as a back up plan whilst you sleep with someone else.
To clarify, husband knows and it’s not cheating. He has been talking to another woman also. We want to find our way back together but don’t know how.
To clarify, husband knows and it’s not cheating. He has been talking to another woman also. We want to find our way back together but don’t know how.
Don’t stay together just for the kids. It won’t work. What happens when they grow up and leave home 🤷🏻♀️ Don’t waste your life being with someone you’re not happy with. Be friends, good friends, you’ll parent better that way than being in a loveless/sexless marriage.
You have already walked, you cant be sleeping with someone but miss the security your husband provides. You have made your bed and time to admit you are done with the marriage. Stand on your own two feet and then create stability for your kids. only then will you find someone who might be able to partner you.