Ok so this happened this morning. Partner woke me up by touching and trying to initiate sex...i was not in the mood and asked him to stop ....i was tired....just wanted to sleep
When i asked him to stop he didnt,he kept going and i just freaked out and froze.......in my head im thinking this is assault , he is sexually assaulting me right now.
I was so shocked and i eventually all most yelled at him to stop.
I dont know what to do.....
Its not the 1st time
Possible sexual assault
Possible sexual assault
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Omg! I think you need to go and speak to someone maybe a female police officer. You need to think about this and are you ok to continue living with this. Just because you are together, it does not mean this is ok. How sickening for your. I would take a serious look at your relationship and work out for yourself what to do. That is rape! No means No!! He has raped you. You felt violated and he has disrespected you and your body.
Im so broken and dont know what to do. I have no family or friends for support. Im technically homeless...and he is the only person i can rely on for support.
But i felt totally violated and just froze and let him keep going for about 5 mins and then i said very loud i said stop. He got upset and rolled over
There is better out there for you please know that. Ring 1800 respect and ask them to help you with a way out. You are his victim. Please don’t settle for this just because you have no where to go. I know it’s hard but you deserve better. if you don’t want to report it then that’s ok but I think you need to get out. Ask for help. Take all the help you can get. Amazing how he got upset and you were the victim. this is his way of making you feel like it was your fault and he is the victim here. He thinks it’s not rape because you are together. It is what it is. You said No and that’s all there is to it.
I would get out of this relationship ASAP
Speak to a police officer and I would ask him to leave.
Run....especially if you have children!!
This is really sad for you. I think you need to get strong enough to leave and create a new life for yourself without him. Also join some fb support groups with others in your situation. Just remember he raped you. It will happen again. you need to leave and speak to someone about it. Don’t hide it else you will suffer I mentally. Speak to a Dr anyway. Seek professional help and have support.
If this is a man you care about then take him for counseling. Let him know how you feel. People make mistakes sometimes, as long as we learn from mistakes then it is workable.
I am so sorry you experienced this. It isn't just sexual assault it is an attempt of rape. You said no and he kept going, if you hadn't had spoken up and said stop then it would have resulted in rape.
This is 100% not okay. If you feel comfortable to you need to tell him that it's not okay and it needs to stop. You do not have to give him sex when he demands it and he does not have a right to be annoyed at you for saying no.
I see you are relying on him for support and a house to live. There are many share housing options available, if you are working or getting centrelink you can leave.
1800respect can help you to figure out a plan, if it does happen again after saying something.
My ex husband used to do this to me regularly, he thought it was his right to have sex with me as he pleased. It got to the point that he would spike my drink with sleeping tablets so he could have his way with me, I only realised when I caught him red handed putting something in my drink. This immediately bought back horrible memories of him raping me. I kicked him out that night and have not looked back. I suffer PTSD because of his actions, it haunts me everyday. I have yet to press charges as it would cause too much distress for our 3 daughters but have evidence and will if required. My advice is to ‘get the fuck out’!! Absolutely disgusting behaviour!!