So for the last few months I've thought my husband and I where happy and everything was going great, until the other night we had a small disagreements wasn't even a huge issue. We talked it out and it was fine.
But it got me thinking about things and I realised that I can't remember the last time my husband told me he loved me, so I put it to the test when I left work that day I sung out amd said I love you he just waved to me it wasnt even a heart felt wave goodbye it was done with his back turned to me while walking off.
Then I had a half hour drive home which I spent mulling over things and more realisation he did nothing for me for valentine's day our wedding and (12 years) and nothing for mother's day.
I don't know what to do, how to approach it.
Not sure he loves me anymore
Not sure he loves me anymore
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Think about love languages - how else might someone show you they love you without saying it? Not everyone uses words or gifts to "say" it. Some do affection, some do "acts of service", some use words of affirmation and some do gifts.
As a chronic overthinker, I laugh at my giving this advice, but try to reframe your thinking right now and instead of focusing on what he doesn't do, think about what he does do to show you.
If all else fails, talk to him. But don't go all out accusing him of no longer loving you. Start with "lately, I've been having these worries that you no longer love me, and I've been wondering if you're okay?"
Did you do things for him on those days or is all the expectation on him?
I don't need to be told my partner loves me to to know that he does.
Instead of having one sided conversations with yourself, try actually speaking to him!
Op here, yes I went above and beyond for those occasions I Always do thats just who I am. I am sentimental about these kinds of things and feel that with the craziness of life we should take those days to appreciate one and other.
I obviously know he loves but again I am the person that says it every opportunity (because I've lost so many people way before their time) life is fletting and unpredictable so I like to say I like the people in my life yo know I love them and I care because any moment could be my last.
I have somethings get taken on board but sometimes it falls of deaf ears. I didn't know the best way to approach him I didn't want it to come across as accusatory hence why i asked the question.