Just wondering how much help with kids house work other partners give.
Hubby works 5 days a week 6:30am to about 3/4pm I work 3-4 days a week and some Saturdays.
Hubby cooks tea each night but that’s where the help ends. We have an 8 mth old together and his has an 8 yr old daughter and a 13 yr old step kid from his previous relationship that he has taken on as his own. I guess what I’m asking is it normal for the father not to do much to help? My dad was an amazing man always helped my mum out with us kids house work etc. do I just have a false expectation of what a partner should do?? Or do you mums have help around the house. I feel like a single mum doing it on my own!!
Lazy husband
Lazy husband
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He needs to step up. All 3 are his. Your dad is the standard. Don't drop your standards. Totally not negotiable
We've got two kids together and almost about to have our third. Before mat leave, I worked 2 days a week. He works similar hours to your partner. And my partner cooks one night a week and puts dishes away every night or morning. Folds all the washing, granted it stays in baskets until he gets around to it which sometimes isn't as often as I would like. He will also hang out washing if asked and anything else really. Also takes all bins out and does lawns ect
He helps bath kids ect ect
I think its great your partner cooks every night. That's more then some men do too. Sounds like he is just so used to you doing everything else. Its hard to snap out of a habit or something you don't even realise when it's just always been that way. Maybe you just need to have a chat and ask him to designate another house chore or job to do to lighten your load.
My husband helps with everything just because they work it doesn’t excuse them from helping out with the kids and around the house. We are exhausted too.
My hubby works similar hours to your partner. I work one day a week and study from home, our son is in day care 1.5 days a week. He cooks dinner every night (mostly because he hates my cooking lol) he does his own washing, he cleans one bathroom and I clean the other, he mows the lawns puts the rubbish out. He basically just does stuff that needs doing, if he sees our sons washing is piling up, he will just do it. If something looks like it needs a.clean he will clean it. I believe his dad was the same!
It should be 50/50! That’s a partnership
I think it is wonderful that he cooks dinner every night but he should be contributing to the children and running of the house too. It’s not ‘helping the wife’ it’s being a part of the family unit. Saying all that, my ex husband did virtually nothing except gardening and claimed that everything else was my job as I was mostly a stay at home mum. He refused to even take the rubbish bins out. His own house is an absolute pigsty now as his new wife doesn’t do much either. Thankful to be rid of that!