How to date again????
After 17 years with someone who has lots of problems, trying my hardest to live with the behaviour, trying to just ignore.
Its time to put myself first and move on and find someone who actually thinks of others.
My husband, well we are separated. Has been addicted to something or other most of our relationship. Hard drugs ( I did not know till I left and he went to rehabilitation, got clean and 18 months later we got back together), prescription pills and now alcohol.
Its been a draining relationship but I have always just put up with it for the sake of our 4 children.
But recently, last 2 years I lost 40 kgs ( not that weight has anything to do with worth) and realised I deserve MORE. I want someone who thinks of his family first not 2nd to his addiction. Someone with similar interests. I like going out doing things, ex just wanted to sit at home getting drunk every night.
But with 4 kids, how does one date safely? I do not under any circumstances want to introduce someone to the kids until I know for sure.
I started working nights, and only get every 2nd weekend to myself if I am lucky.
After being with the same man since I was 20, now having a body I am not confident in after 4 kids and lots of loose skin.
I just don't know how to actually find and meet someone decent.
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Try a couple of dating sites where you can chat to guys before you meet them. Having recently separated from someone with similar issues to your ex I understand the difficulties. Put yourself out there and you never know where it could lead.
I hear you sister! Although my situation is very different in terms of his commitments- his lay with making money only, no thought for kids or me for a long time. I feel quite empty and will be visiting a psychologist very soon to undo some damage he’s inflicted. I also struggle to think of how I will meet anyone new, I absolutely long for someone to love me and for me to love.