Complicated question my daughter and grandchild live with me. We currently live 2 states away from our families and we feel now is the time to move back closer to our fams as both sets of parents are battling illness. My grandchild sees her dad every other weekend and usually only when his parents are there (as he lives with his parents) If they go away he doesn’t see his child because he doesn’t feel he can look after his child without there help. He doesn’t pay child support and never has (said child is 9) and child and mum has always lived with us and he has always lived with his parents. They have nothing set legally. My daughter could noway afford to live on her own in this town as it’s quite expensive place to live. Especially for a single mum. Grandchild’s dad has made statements before (that don’t think you’ll be leaving the state till there child is a teenager). I guess my question is can he stop us moving state. We don’t want to cause trouble, just do what’s best for our daughter n grandchild financially. We would never stop child from seeing her dad we can bring back for visits in school holidays and zoom. But we really want to move back to our home town. My daughter grew up there also, we moved up here about 10yrs ago. Any experience in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
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Yeah, he can absolutely fight it.
I think your daughter's best bet would be to get some legal advice.
You need legal advice. He can stop his daughter moving and if you move without his written permission he can take it to court for a relocation order.
Get legal advice. He is her dad and they have a right to have a relationship. Its not just about whether or not he pays child support.
Maybe it's time to let your daughter live on her own and you move by yourself? There are many single parents that survive on their own infact most do. If you're renting just add her to the lease if you haven't already, then when you're ready to move, remove your name. If you own it rent it to her. It sounds like both Daughter and her ex need to stand on their own two feet, better late than never.
I think youre adding a lot of undue stress on the grandchild to remove her from living close to both parents. I think you see him as a bit shit so havent really considered the huge and lasting effect it will have on the child, doing this to them in their teenage years. Let alone to be living with ill elderly relatives instead. Mum and child need to stay there for 6 more years and then mum can decide if spreading the daughter over 2 states is really neccessary then mum can move.
Is there any reason, medically speaking that these to Parents can't be normal functioning adults and look after themselves? if there is then moving would probably be a disaster for all parties. If not you need to make a decision for your life, and let the parents make a call on how they will manage there's. If she(your daughter) wants to move with you then legal advise is needed. there is nothing to stop her going, but if dad decides to fight for his child she might get told to move back or hand over the child full time. so it's risky.
Might be time to lawyer up and be prepared to be told what you don't want to hear
Agree! The child is 9 so parents must be over 20! Stop coddling them
Yes he can stop your daughter from moving away with HIS Daughter, if you move without his permission he can apply to have your daughter and granddaughter returned to the area where he lives, after all it is his childand he has just as much right to the child as your daughter does. Your daughter is enough of an adult to have a child she is enough of an adult to live on her own with said child, she will survive quiet fine im sure.
So you're judging him for living with his parents but justifying her doing the same lol
Of course he can stop her taking his child, child support is irrelevant, this child deserves to keep her relationship with her father