Hey sisters, no judgment please..
How do I tell my husband he needs to put in a bit of effort on Mother’s Day?
Yes he got a present from the kids (1&4) but so far the day has been spent with him out with his mates and me home with the kids feeling a bit sorry for myself.
I don’t expect gifts but was hoping he would ask if I wanted some time to myself, have a sleep in or time to just sit with a cuppa and a book but no nothing.
He puts the effort in with his mum re gifts, card, chocolates. But for his wife and the mother of his children.. not much at all
How do I tell him in a polite and supportive way
How do I tell him in a polite and supportive way
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I think you said it beautifully. Just say it. Sometimes the hard part is just starting the conversation.
Do not sit and wallow all day and miss this beautiful day.
Message him, oi its mothers day, get your butt home so I can relax please.
And when he gets home, take the time. Go for coffee or a pedi or a lie at the beach, and think about what youd like to do with your family. And when you get home, tell them.
Lets go out for dinner tonight! Or bring home every thing for them to make the dinner you want, or tell them ok get ready its my day and I want us all to go swimming! Ice skating! Whatever it is.
And next year, plan it before the day comes so there is no sadness or time wasted. Its OK to say what you want, you dont have to always act like it doesnt matter. You should say what you want and make it what you want.
Plan it in advance. Pick the place you want to picnic at, or say you would like family movie day etc. Make the day what you want by making your feelings known in advance.
Out with his mates on mother’s day! What a prick.
You don’t tell him in a polite but supportive way. You be assertive and tell him you’re disappointed and you expect more next time.
Dot. Okay games. How can he improve if he doesn’t know the expectations from you. Tell him you expect to be fussed over. Breakfast in bed, and family time. Full stop.
Communication is the key in a long term relationship, you need to communicate if you’re not happy with something and outline what can be done better next time.
This is both ways. There has been times when my husband hasn’t been happy with me, told me, which allowed me to see how important something was to him so I could do better next time.