I have a 1 week old. Almost the whole family has met her except my partners nieces and nephews only because last week one was sick. He’s just asked me if they can come visit, however his nephew now has “the sniffles”. How is it even a question when it comes to newborns? I’ve been asked 3 times now if people can come visit and they’re either getting the start of a cold or they have the end of one. Then my partners sister come over last week and her partner stayed home because he was sick but the next day, she was sick too. I maybe paranoid and protective but isn’t it common sense to just stay home until you are feeling 100% better? And maybe stay home until your house hold is better?
Am I right to be pissed off and refuse to have them come over?
Sick people around newborns
Sick people around newborns
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People are bloody selfish. It still boggles my mind.
My SIL almost died as a baby because some selfish asshole kissed her when they had a coldsore. My MIL said it was horrible to have a tiny newborn so sick and people still don't take it seriously.
If you are sick, stay home. No one wants your grubby germs, especially a newborn.
So many people don't do the right thing just in general when it comes to illness.
My hubby is a manager in the hospitality industry, he's constantly dealing with patrons who are obviously sick and shouldn't be in public or sending employees home that are clearly too unwell to be there - even at the height of the pandemic he had people come in like "I had a bit of gastro last night but I'm fine now" meanwhile looking like they were on the brink of death or "I've got a cough and sore throat but it's not a covid sore throat and cough so I'm good to work right?" 🙄🙄🙄
It's the same at schools, kids getting dosed and dumped to spread their colds/viruses to every one else.
Some people's selfishness knows no bounds. Imagine having zero regard for a newborn baby's life simply because you couldn't wait a few more days?!
Astounding...
Stand your ground on this one, not that you should even have to.
Yep, my niece and nephew have been tested for covid almost 30 times each, because people are sending there kids to school sick. There parents are both medical professionals so they can’t afford for there kids to skip the test. Could you imagine the outrage of a doctor not having there kids tested and it turned out there was an outbreak.
You're doing the right thing. There are people out there that won't allow visits until baby is immunised which I think is a bit extreme if you have a healthy baby. It is absolutely common sense to stay away from newborns if someone in your house is sick, they should be the ones to offer to stay away imagine how bad you would feel if you were the reason a new baby ended up in hospital.
It’s infuriatingly selfish. I’ve got a kid who is immune compromised and a cold often means a hospital admission. People know this, and I go to a lot of trouble to take extra precautions. Time and time again, someone will come around him with a cold or similar. It’s selfish. They don’t even try to take proper precautions (wear a mask etc). They just let me know they aren’t feeling well half way through a get together. We have an effing sign on our front door 🤬.
I have a friend who has had a lung transplant. I won’t go near her if I even suspect I might be sick. It’s not hard, and I care enough about her to not want her to get sick.
Yeah the worst. I had one come to visit me in hospotal and while there tell me her husbands grossly sick at home. Just stay dont even risk it, there will be other time.
Say no and repeat. I've lost a baby nephew because someone went near him sick. Its something his parents are never going to recover from. Some people put out a group message asking others to not come near if they are unwell. I think its beyond selfish.
You are definitely right. I would be so pissed off. I would be saying 'No! Sorry no visits with bub until everyone in the house is well'
They will have plenty of time to vist when they are better. Maybe suggest a video chat.
You are doing the right thing mumma bear, you keep on protecting your baby cub.
In the Covid world I understand this however just generally babies are not as fragile as you think they are unless they already have a underlying issue.
If they have the slight sniffles I think it’s no big deal.
Yes you are right to refuse visitors if they are not well. Not good for newborn.