I'm feeling like I've let my four year old son down a little..
I've had a few people over the last year comment on his behaviour and just recently his preschool educators have invited me in to discuss his "concerning" behaviour in the classroom.
He is my first child and I'm only just coming to the realisation that he has differences that need addressing. I've always put his behaviour down to him being a small child and thinking they all must be like that. Maybe I've been in denial.
He is a kind gentle and intelligent boy but he can not focus his attention on anything or anyone for longer than a minute unless it's tv. His teachers say he is disruptive to the other children and is constantly defiant. He prefers to play on his own rather than with others. He has trouble maintaining eye contact with anyone other than me.
So ive taken his educators' only advice and booked him in to see a specialist however the earliest I can get him in in September. Other than this they had no advice and were asking me for advice on how to control him whilst in care.
He is supposed to start kindergarten next year I'm now I'm feeling anxious and guilty that he won't be ready by then.
Anyway the reason I'm writing is to seek any advice from parents who have been down the same road. What specific parenting techniques can I implement between now and next year that will benefit my son? I have been told to cut out refined sugar and tv. Has this worked for you? Have you got any strategies that your child's educators' have implemented whilst they are in care?
Please and thankyou in advance for anything that has worked for you.
Parenting techniques for children with adhd
Parenting techniques for children with adhd
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See a child psychologist and ring around different paeds to try get in earlier and ask to go on their cancellation list
See a child psychologist and ring around different paeds to try get in earlier and ask to go on their cancellation list
I agree with above. Dont be hard on yourself. Ive been a parent and a teacher for lots of years and still last year moved to specialise in special ed and had to learn so much about these kids. The point is its hard, and would be much harder with your first and no other baseline to go off, so go gently on yourself hes still very young and youre getting on to it.
To be honest, we learn strategies each year for each kid, its all quite personal on what makes them tick and respond. A psychologist just for your son will be the best thing you can do for yourself and him.
As someone who has worked in clinics that does assessments for disorders you are not alone. It’s really hard to tell as a parent ‘what’s normal’ especially when it’s your first/only child. It’s literally the preschools job to identify any potential issues. They do it all the time.
Make sure you are on the cancellation list for the specialist and I’d also ask your GP for a referral to a child psychologist who works with disorders such as ADHD and ASD (eye contact and preferring to play alone are markers for ASD). The psychologist should be able to give you some parenting tips.
Check out the Early Intervention criteria for the NDIA as you may be entitled to some therapy funding before getting a diagnosis.