I am a single mum of 2 kids with a (relatively) steady custody schedule where I have two week nights child free each week and then one weekend a fortnight child free.
I have been on a few dates but I don't know if I have been out of the game for too long or I am overthinking it.
Ideally I don't want to date men who have kids (been there, done that) but do men want to date single mums?
I'm not asking these guys to meet my kids or get involved in family life at all - generally drinks, dinner, sex and chatting. I just feel like I don't know where they stand when I mention I'm a single mum or if it's just going to be a booty call situation with no committment. My free time is fairly precious so I don't want to be wasting it.
Should I just give up and wait until my kids leave home in 14 years or is there hope for me? Any good news stories of dating as a single parent?
Is it true that single mums are for recreational use only?
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Ugh same issue. Or they want to keep on texting, i havent got any inclination to be texting people all day long day after day.
I think the important thing to do is to put it right there on your page, what youre looking for and who shouldnt contact you. At least that will wittle it down. And get to the point asking questions at initial chat. Might as well weed them out early, we dont have time to waste. But, I want the same thing and no i havent found it.
The way to stop it being a bootycall sitch is to not get into pics and not have them over to yours. Meet for coffee first. Even just doing that weeds out heaps as the ones that hit you up for nsa let you know it quickly.
You are sending a confusing message, even I’m confused.
Men (without kids) do date women without kids but you are severely restricting how many people there are to available to date.
Do you really want to date someone who is still living the ‘single life’. It’s unlikely you will fit into there current lifestyle, eg being able to go on dates in a whim etc. plus guys who want kids will be weighing in there minds if you’ll be likely to want more kids in the future.
Let’s be realistic if you won’t date guys with kids why would a guy without kids date you over a woman without kids?
There are great guys out there with kids, just like there are some absolute pricks without. Rather than ruling one group out entirely, date, take your time, watch for red flags and don’t get involved with people past a red flag waving.
I disagree. Once you know what you want, its ok to rule out whole groups. Yes, also rule out single party people. And single people who want kids in their future.