A woman called and texted my husband one night when we were asleep (with our newborn). The messages said she missed him. He saw the messages in the morning and deleted them and removed her from Facebook. She is the ex of one of his best mates. This was July 2020, we hadn’t seen her since April 2018 when she was in the bridal party of a wedding with my husband. He claims nothing ever happened between them and that he doesn’t know why she would call/text him. We assume it was a drunk dial as it was 11pm on a Friday night. I trust my husband but something just doesn’t sit right with me. We are seeing her at a baby shower next month and I’m not sure how she will act or if things will be awkward. I guess I just want to know why she would have messaged and called him?
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Why did she contact my husband?
Why did she contact my husband?
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So a drunk dial doesnt make sense as she would miss her ex. theres the possibility of a sexual history or even one night stand and ita still a drunk dial but theres a reason for it. Of course there could be much much more as well. He probably wouldnt have her on his fb if she could cause havoc but you never know, some men are brazen.
I would be watching him like a hawk around her. I would also be sitting him down and asking him to tell you anything you might need to know before you get there.
My partner got a FB message from a girl that he hasn’t seen since high school. Random and out of the blue saying ‘Hey, I miss you’ with a kissing face. He never replied and just blocked her.
Yes I’m 100% sure he’s honest in regards to last contact, he’s been in Australia over 10 years and she still lives in NZ.
Sometimes people just message dumb shit. I wouldn’t be overly worried about it unless it coincided with other behaviour that’s out of the ordinary.
Sometimes its a crazy jealous boyfriend or girlfriend messaging from their account trying to bait someone. One of my friends old girlfriends did it, she thought he was sleeping with every female on his friends list so used to send weird messages to his female friends pretending to be him and catch him out. Relatives and all!
Were they mates when she dated his mate? Maybe she's a sentimental drunk and a story about him came up in conversation? Not sure I'd jump straight to their being any concern
My husband and i would laugh our arses off if this happened to him. But thats because i trust him and there aren't any jealousy issues.
If you genuinely trust your husband, whatever prompted or motivated her to text/call doesn't really matter.
You'll drive yourself nuts trying to figure out why some people do the shit they do.
My ex was a psycho and used to message men acting as me on my account. Even if I barely knew them.
This happened to my sister in law.
Her psycho ex logged into her Facebook account (he guessed her password), sent texts as if he were her and even sent nude photos of her to pretty much every male person on her friends list.
Then she ended up with half a dozen partners of these guys from Facebook abusing her for being a homewrecker and a slut etc when she was actually the victim.
So it's definitely worth considering that it might not be what it seems to be on face value.
She’ll pretend like nothing happened. She’s not going to cause a scene just cause she sent your husband a stupid message once. If she had wanted to contact/make a scene, she would have found a way to by now. Instead she took the hint and got on with life and probably feels a bit embarrassed by the entire thing.