I've been sexting and having phone sex with a guy for a while who I really like. We plan to meet, but the planets haven't aligned yet. I realise phone sex and sexting are all fantasy based but wondered whether they ever develop into a relationship. Friends have warned me to be careful, but at times I can't shake the feeling of a connection.
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Rarely! As a single person who has been mostly home bound, I’ve engaged in a lot of sexting. It’s a relief and it’s free, it’s not relationship material.
Here’s the deal, people sext without meeting because it requires no effort. It’s free phone sex. Sometimes they’ll talk about emotions as part of the game, but it’s never real. It’s the free girlfriend experience.
On the rare occasions that you do eventually meet up reality doesn’t match up.
If a a guy isn’t making time to meet up with you, he doesn’t have time for a relationship anyway, or he doesn’t really want a relationship with you.
Exactly what a girlfriend told me, maybe because it's my first time exploring outside a relationship it seems like more. We kiss over text but the rest is just dirty talk.
It’s fine, if you can keep your feelings straight and enjoying it. But don’t waste time if your looking for a real relationship.
If you’re sexting, he’s telling you what he wants and it isn’t a relationship.
Guys who want a relationship want to date you, get to know you, make an effort, what to put their best foot forward, want to make a good impression etc.
This guys just after one thing, don’t see it as more than what it is.
Planets not aligning, more likely he has a partner.
Also, if you want to be considered relationship material, don’t sext.
Nope when you meet people online if they only want to fuck then theyll get straight to it. Asking to com over. Sending and asking for pics. The line," what are you lookingfor?" Really early. Or " happy to meet and see where it goes... maybd some fun along the way yeah?" Theyre all ways to get to NSA hookups. Those ones are not there for dates
Could have written this myself, my special friend lives thousands of kms away and just haven't been able to catch up in real life. We've both booked flights and then covid cases have happened, we've been talking for 3 years and both have busy lives
What's the reason for not meeting? Are you super busy or does he always have an excuse?
My now husband, who I have 2 beautiful children with, and I met online and used to sext and have phone sex long before we physically met. Can definitely develop into something serious and special