Why do a lot of men not put any effort or thought into “Special day’s”. For Christmas I got nothing, for Valentine’s day I got nothing, my Birthday is coming up and it’ll be nothing. His excuse is because we are broke. But he can afford golf and coffee with mates and supports his dream of buying lotto tickets because he has a feeling we are going to win big when we don’t even win enough to cover the cost of the ticket.
Here’s some inexpensive tips men
Writing a love letter - FREE
Romantic picnic for two - CHEAP
Proposal of renewal of vows - FREE
And the list goes on........
I would like other ladies to add idea’s to this list to help all the men out there that obviously bloody need it!
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Hubby’s family are not big on celebrations, either was he.
My family are huge on celebrations.
His birthday is luckily before mine in the year, that helps.
I spoil my hubby, I spend a lot of time researching things for those type of days.
I tell him...eg...’OMG you should see what I found for Father’s Day...’
Father’s Day and his birthday are the two I really research.
It took a bit but he caught on that being treated was nice
Not necessarily expensive, but memorable
Then through out the year I will drop things like....I wonder how I can top last years birthday..??
It’s a process, but it worked
There are lots of ways to show someone you love them. Have a Google for the 5 love languages quiz and complete it with your partner. It only takes a few minutes to do, and it shows both of you how the other gives and receives love. It's different for everybody. Perhaps your hubby's love language is Acts of Service but yours is Gifts.. If he's doing things for you like checking your tyres, bringing your phone charger into bed, passing you your towel when you finish your shower and stuff like that, he might be missing the point of how you like to receive love...maybe you would feel love if he grabbed you your favourite chocolate from the servo on his way home, or bought you lunch when he picks up his lotto ticket. Those things might be missing.
Exactly. My partner will always try have lunch with me when he is in town.
One thing I loved before we moved was when I had hectic days he would move my car out so it only took me two mins to leave our shared driveway instead of 10mins.
It seemed silly but it really helped my mornings having extra time to get kids to school.