My ex partners new partner is threatening not only me but now my mother. She is threatening me because I refuse to pay a car that got repossessed due to my ex partner was supposed to pay as child support and the car was in both our names. She is also threatening a DNA test on my son. I do not respond as my ex and I split 8.5 year ago. What can I do?
The car was repossessed 5 years ago. 6 years I have been receiving random abusive messages from her. I have not responded, but I have saved the messages, time and date.
He has not seen my older 2 children since December 2013. I have tried mediation as the kids deserve to know their father, he attended but didn't agree with the what was discussed.
I don't mind him doing a DNA test because I know the results.
I have tried to stay out of their pettiness the whole time but I'm absolutely fine nope, especially bringing my mum into it.
What can I do?
Ex partner and his new partner
Ex partner and his new partner
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What an utter Scrag that thing is. Go to the Police. That's what you do. It's been going on long enough. Get a restraining order. That's what you do. Why are you waiting so long?
Go to the police, but I’d also be prepared to start making it extremely hard for them to contact you. So block them on social media and your phone. Keep evidence of the shit that’s gone on.
I’d go as far as to get new phone numbers and socials under a different name. Get your mum to block her on social media and her phone.
Keep your old email address for your ex, and get new emails for the people who won’t abuse you. That way you can periodically check the email in case something genuine comes up, but you don’t have to be bombarded with there drama.
Make no mistake, he isn’t an innocent party to all this and has allowed her to continue this nonsense. She might be crazy, but he’s fed the crazy!
She doesn’t need your contact details, so block her and show your mum how to do the same.
I wouldn’t put your kids through a DnAtest it won’t change her behaviour. IF he wants one he can take you to court (he won’t).
Going through this crap with my partners ex. She doesn't direct it at me but she includes me in her rants and if she cant get through to my partner she starts abusing his elderly parents. She's a piece of work. If it were me I would have a restraining order put on her, go to your local court house to see which one would fit the situation. Failing that see a lawyer.
I have blocked on them on all social media accounts, she has just made fake ones. I have blocked their number but they can still send me messages which come up in the blocked messages. I have also blocked our mutual friends so they couldn't contact me through them. I have kept my number so I can keep track of every message they send. ( Well her)
I have been to the police and honestly just hopeless. Unless she has physically abused me, then nothing they can do apprarently ( load of BS) I will be honest I was very nasty to him when we first broke up as he left me for a 14 yr old. He was 21 at the time.. yes police did get involved but nothing went further with it because her parents didn't care.
But for the last 8 years I put my big girl panties on, lived life and grew up!
Go to the court house, there are other restraining orders! The police only issue urgent VRO's I think and the rest you need to go through courthouse. I know it's different state to state but you should find one that suits your situation. Go and have a look, it's pretty much your only option besides seeing a lawyer.
Get new socials under different names. It’s hard to find someone if the name doesn’t match
Great idea! I didn't even think of that
Thank you, I will go tomorrow
It's called a Misconduct order. They do cost money tho .
I would definitely take all the messages, including the ones to tour mum to the police.
Report any messages on social media as scams, harassment or fraud. Get a new phome number. He doesn't want anything to do with the kids so he doesn't need to be able to contact you.
But I would create an email address that is only for him and don't use it for anything else. Check it one a week to see if there is anything related to the kids but never reply to anything unless related to the kids. If the nasty messages continue to the email addreas I would then go to the police as report as necessary.