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Do men keep you around even if they don’t love you anymore ?
How do you know if your partner isn’t in to you anymore ?
I’m starting to wonder if my partner of 6 years is in to me any more or even loves me anymore.
He barley wants to do anything but sit on the lounge ...
He shows no affection what so ever and when I bring it up he says he shouldn’t have to show me affection for me to know he loves me
Some times if I go to cuddle or kiss him he will do it for all of 3-5 seconds and push me away
We sleep together maybe twice a month max .... and it’s always on his terms
We sleep in separate beds but I done that a while ago cause I work shift worker... but never share the bed when I’m off
At the start and for a few years.. he was completely different THE BEST MAN ON THE PLANET !!! ... he lost his mum a few years ago and I seen a change in him then ... but like I can beg ,cry, For attention or affection and he says well your still living with me after 6 years ? Surely that’s gotta show /mean something ?
Am I over thinking
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Some men and some women choose to stay with partners once the love is gone. Marriage can be comfortable for some people, even when they don’t want to be affectionate. Especially when that person cooks the meals and does the washing.
Your husband may genuinely love you, he may not, but he isn’t meeting your needs and for a relationship to work (and be happy) you have to somewhat meet each other’s needs.
I’d suggest marriage counselling as one last ditch to get him to wake up. If he isn’t interested in that I’d be out the door.
Yes of course, its difficult to split. Ofteb is expensive and means change, upsetting people, lower living circumstance etc.
Especially if there w as love then he doesnt hate you, Im sure its much easier to just become complacent and stay than to strive for better, which takes effort either way.
But you deserve effort and its ok to draw that line.
He's comfortable and content. The chase is over for them once they secure the prize . You are his prize version of his love language.
Sounds normal to me. He's saying very clearly that he loves you. You're just not in the honeymoon phase of the relationship anymore.
No, you're not overthinking.
There are lots of reasons why he
might be acting this way, and not all of them mean that he no longer loves you.
- He might be depressed and grieving his mum - you mentioned his behaviour changed when she died
- He might be burned out
- He might not be an overly affectionate or outwardly loving person i.e. his love language doesn't match yours
On the no longer loving you side, some men stay because it's easier being with someone and having them around than breaking up. I don't think that's the case here.
I think you've got a partner who probably loves you but is terrible at communicating. I hope you can find a way of getting on the same page xx